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Ten Tips For Becoming More Self Assertive
| Guest post by: Alvah Parker |
Article Overview: This month I had the pleasure of hearing Johanna Skouras speak at a Chamber of Commerce meeting. Self-Assertion is something I have struggled with myself. Johanna says that to learn to be self assertive we need to learn how to serve our own needs without hurting others. As an only child I had no need to be assertive in my family. My needs were always acknowledged and usually served. The difficulty came for me when I was with other people. I smiled when I picked up Johanna's book at the library and the librarian, a friend, said, "Oh Alvah, you don't need that book!" I'm still working on many of these tips. What about you?
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Ten Tips For Becoming More Self Assertive
This month I had the pleasure of hearing Johanna Skouras speak at a Chamber of Commerce meeting. Self-Assertion is something I have struggled with myself. Johanna says that to learn to be self assertive we need to learn how to serve our own needs without hurting others. As an only child I had no need to be assertive in my family. My needs were always acknowledged and usually served. The difficulty came for me when I was with other people. I smiled when I picked up Johanna's book at the library and the librarian, a friend, said, "Oh Alvah, you don't need that book!" I'm still working on many of these tips. What about you?
From Standing Up for Yourself -The Art of Self-Assertion by Johanna Skouras
I have quoted directly from the book. If you are interested in reading and owning the book yourself it can be ordered through Amazon. Use the link above.
1. “You can choose how to react to a stressful situation rather than get swept away. You take control by deciding what you will or will not put up with.”
2. “Non-action is an action. You’ve made the decision not to act.”
3. “In trying to resolve a conflict remember that conflict/resolution is almost always about compromise and not about winning or losing.”
4. “Let go of perfectionism. Loosening up is not the same as losing control.”
5. “In your self-talk assessments, change your perspective from “What do they think of me?” to “What do I think of them?””
6. “Always examine what you have going for you rather than what’s going against you.”
7. “As long as you know you could tell someone the raw truth but you choose not to, then you are still being assertive.”
8. “You are responsible for your actions, not your feelings.”
9. “When you can’t change the system and you can’t change the other, you change.”
10. “Practice self-forgiveness and be generous with small personal rewards for your hard work.”
In the book there are two more.
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Article Tags: assertive, assertiveness, chamber of commerce, only child
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