Are you a perfectionist and/or a workaholic? In today’s world most attorneys and other professionals are working long hours. Doing a good job of course is essential to winning and keeping clients but some people go a bit overboard. Do you attend to the smallest detail yourself, work at your desk through lunch and stay at work late into the evening? If you said yes, you are not alone.
I recently heard a speaker refer to workaholism as the only addiction that can appear on your resume. I’d add perfectionism to that too. People (Maybe just Americans?) today brag about workaholism and perfectionism. Both seem attractive to those managing the practice who believe they are getting a lawyer who will produce mountains of perfect work! Dream on!
What happens to the attorney who works incredible hours or the one who is never satisfied with the quality of the work? These lawyers are candidates for burn out, unrelenting stress and illness and will always be unhappy about lack of time for fun and family. If they have any extra time to consider alternatives they may be the people who leave the law to find other occupations. Otherwise they run on empty and feel that way too!
Is this you? Do you have a critical inner voice that tells you, you never do your work well enough or fast enough? Does your critic tell you your work will only be worthwhile if you make it perfect? The problem is that that fault finding critic is NEVER satisfied and your days just get longer and longer. There is no satisfaction.
My time management tips might be helpful initially but sooner or later there just aren’t enough hours in the day. Sometimes too the work ethic in the law firm creates pressure to continue these bad habits. Law firms whose practice management philosophy encourage this give up more than they realize.
Creativity only comes when the mind is allowed to rest. How many of us get lots of wonderful ideas as we lie down to go to sleep at night? It may be the only time our minds are quiet enough.
The Boston Globe ran a story a couple of weeks ago about a repair foreman for the public transit system who found a solution to a problem that had plagued the system. The foreman found the solution by observing the butcher in a butcher shop on his day off! Wonderful ideas come when a person has time to relax and be a creative.
I’ve just had my own experience with perfectionism. In the singing workshop I did a couple of weeks ago. My goal was to sing a song in an on stage in front of an audience. The night of the performance I was extremely nervous. I’d practiced and practiced but occasionally I did forget a lyric and it usually happened when I was scared.
Sure enough when I got out on the stage my mind went blank! I took a couple of breaths and miraculously the words came back so I could start. As I continued singing some of the words escaped me again but I managed to get through the song by putting in other words.
No one else seemed to notice and the audience acknowledged me by clapping vigorously. My colleagues congratulated me and told me how wonderful I was. I’d accomplished my goal to perform in front of an audience but I didn’t get the feeling of satisfaction that I expected because it wasn’t perfect.
The choice to be a workaholic and/or a perfectionist is in the hands of each individual. I know perfectionism is hurting me and I want to change. Making a conscious effort to change my inner messages is a first step. For those of you working long hours and hating it. There is a solution for you too. How do you figure out what the steps are? A Practice Advisor and coach can help!
Take Action
1. Do you have a tendency to be a perfectionist and/or a workaholic? Is it negatively impacting your life?
2. Make a list of activities you wish you had time for. Choose one activity and plan to do spend some time doing it in the next week. Do this weekly for the next month and then revisit your list.
3. Take an exploratory bike ride or walk. Get lost! Really!!! Is there a benefit? Think about how this might apply to the work that you do?
3. What do you need to do to get out of your comfort zone and stretch? Do you know how to enjoy your mistakes? Write me a note to tell me what you are doing and how you are enjoying the mistakes. I have lots to learn here too!
4. Is this article too late for you? The Now What? program can help you find your purpose in life and the a whole assortment of potential careers that could be a vehicle for your purpose. Want to try an assessment to see if it is right for you? Send me an email (asparker@asparker.com) with Now What? assessment as the subject.
The Cost of Being a Perfectionist or a Workaholic for Attorneys - To learn more about this author, visit Alvah Parker's Website.
Like this article? Share it with your friends
 |
Related Articles |
|
 The Cost of Being a Perfectionist or a Workaholic for Attorneys
|
| |
Are you a perfectionist or a workaholic? Many law firms and other businesses encourage this. Lawyers and other professionals often brag about it. What is it costing the business and the individual.
|
|
What Kind of Time Traveller Are You?
|
| |
What kind of time manager are you? Do you veer towards doing too much with your time or too little? Find out what your time management personality is and then discover how to surf the tide of time with skill.
|
|
Are You Working Yourself Out of Your Business?
|
| |
As entrepreneurs and small business owners, I think one of our biggest challenges is balance. How much time to spend on our business? With our families? Ourselves? And how do we fit it all into the only 24 hours we ...
|
|
Perfectionism Can it be a good thing
|
| |
Last month I wrote an article on accomplishing goals. As most of you know I think it is very important to have goals and to work toward them. The article inspired one reader to write the following:
|
|
THE PLIGHT OF THE PERFECTIONIST
|
| |
Perfectionism can be paralysing. Perhaps perfectionists could be helped if we adopted the motto of a well known sports brand and learnt to “just do it”. Instead of waiting for perfection, life would be a little easi...
|
 |
Related Businesses - Evan Elite Authors |
|
Kim Castle
With nearly two decades in the advertising and design business, with clients like Domino's Pizza, General Motors, Direct TV, Pedigree, Wolfgang Puck, Higher Octave Music, Hollywood Celebrity Products, Disney, and Paramount, as well as thousands of entrepreneurs around the world define, structure, communicate, and position their business for greater profits, BrandU(R) co-creators Kim Castle and W. Vito Montone discovered that entrepreneurs could experience the same power that big brands command for a fraction of the cost with the world's only process-based results-drive Integral approach to business creation.
BrandU(R) is helping entrepreneurs grow with the power of extreme clarity from idea...to brand...to market(TM) and helping one million entrepreneurs become successful and whole so that they can make a difference in the world. Are you one of them?
If you want to experience clarity all the way to the bank(TM), get started now at http://www.brandu.com. - Visit Kim Castle's Website |
|
The Evan Elite Authors program is currently in beta phase. For details please contact us.
|
|
|
Alvah Parker
(Visit Alvah's Website)
Alvah Parker is a Practice Advisor (The
Attorneys’ Coach) and a Career Changers’
Coach as well as publisher of "Parker’s
Points", an email tip list and "Road to
Success", an ezine. Subscribe now to
these free monthly publications at her
website www.asparker.com/samples.html
Alvah Parker began her career as a high
school chemistry teacher. She later
transition to a sales career at AT&T. As
a Sales Professional at AT&T for 15 years
she was elected to the prestigious Counsel
of Leaders for the top 3% of the sales
force. After leaving AT&T she
transitioned into a coaching career and
also volunteers as a SCORE Business
Counselor where she advises and counsels
small business owners.
Parker’s Value Program© enables her
clients to find their own way to work that
is more fulfilling and profitable. Her
clients are attorneys and people in
transition who want to find work that is
in line with their own life purpose.
Alvah is found on the web at www.aspar
ker.com. She may also be reached at
781-598-0388.
|
|
 |
|
|
|
|
![[Get Copyright Permissions]](http://license.icopyright.net/images/icopy-w.gif){kind=small}
