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Top Ten Listening Techniques

Written by: Alvah Parker

Article Overview: Listening seems like a simple process and yet so many of us are more eager to talk than to listen. Someone once said we were given two ears and one mouth for a reason. What better gift could you give to your family, friends, peers and bosses than to listen to them so that they feel really heard? Here are some tips to enhance your communication skills.

Top Ten Listening Techniques

Top Ten Listening Techniques

Listening seems like a simple process and yet so many of us are more
eager to talk than to listen. Someone once said we were given two ears
and one mouth for a reason. What better gift could you give to your
family, friends, peers and bosses than to listen to them so that they feel
really heard? Here are some tips:

1. Stay present – Don’t let your mind wander. Many are composing a
response before the speaker has a chance to completely finish his/her
thought.
2. Make eye contact – Let the speaker see your interest by regularly
making eye contact.
3. Ask questions for clarification – This is not your time to respond.
Get really clear about what is being said. If you don’t understand,
ask questions in an open non-charged manner.
4. Acknowledge feelings – If the speaker is telling you something about
his/her feelings, acknowledge them. You don’t have to agree to show
that you see the speaker is upset or happy about something.
5. Restate or paraphrase – Make sure you are getting the information
the speaker is presenting by periodically repeating what you hear in
different words the speakers. “Let me see if I’ve got it so far?”
6. Seek first to understand and then to be understood - Before you
state your thoughts and ideas make sure you totally understand and
acknowledge the speakers thoughts.
7. Give nonverbal feedback - While the speaker is speaking, be sure to
smile, nod, frown, shrug your shoulders, or raise your eyebrows –
whatever is appropriate.
8. Silence – Don’t be afraid of this. Periods of total quiet will
allow you and the speaker to think about what was said. When you are sure
the speaker has completed his/her thoughts on the subject it will be
time for you to comment.
9. Take in all the information both verbal and nonverbal – Focus on the
meaning of what is being said and also what is not being said.
10. Get permission – Sometimes people just want to be heard. At other
times they are seeking advice. Give advice only when requested and
only after the person has had a chance to give you the whole story. If
you are not sure, ask if the person is looking for your input.

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