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How to Immediately Over Respond to Every Event
| Guest post by: Karl Ruegg |
Article Overview: By responding to your environment you change. When you change you evolve, and when you evolve you become much more attractive to others and great opportunities...
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How to Immediately Over Respond to Every Event
By immediately over-responding instead of over-reacting, you evolve, which is very attractive.
“Sometimes something worth doing, is worth overdoing…” – David Letterman
By responding to your environment you change. When you change you evolve, and when you evolve you become much more attractive to others and great opportunities.
Your surroundings are full of hints that can help you change and evolve.
Your surroundings are full of hints that can help you change and evolve.
By learning how to best respond or even better over respond you will become more responsible to your process of, and your opportunities for, creating a more attractive and fulfilling life for yourself and others.
Over-Responding vs. Over-Reacting
The distinction between these two words is huge.
Over-Responding vs. Over-Reacting
The distinction between these two words is huge.
Growing up we have learned to stifle our responses to immediate events in order to remain calm, collected and in control. But strong (upset) feelings are very important teachers. Stifling your feelings and cultivating inner numbness (coolness) widens the gap between your mind and your body.
So trying to prevent getting stuck in the over-reactive mode just makes you end up in the response containment mode.
“Is life not a hundred times too short for us to stifle ourselves?” – Friedrich Nietzsche
When you over-react, you nip a problem in the bud. When you over respond, you get rid of the problem AND find an opportunity there!
Unlearning the Operating Styles that keep you stuck
By risking to over-react a little you can pick up on all possible environmental clues. Armed with that valuable information will put you in position to do great things with ALL your opportunities.
Unlearning the Operating Styles that keep you stuck
By risking to over-react a little you can pick up on all possible environmental clues. Armed with that valuable information will put you in position to do great things with ALL your opportunities.
It will happen when you go beyond reacting by just solving or handling your problems and start to respond by using them as chances to grow. But how will you know if you are over-responding instead of just over-reacting?
Here are a few hints:
- You will enjoy the process of over-responding much more than just reacting every day and regardless of the issue at hand.
- You will be surprised how you handle your common problems different, more effective and in a sustainable way.
- You start to act on problems much much earlier, instead of procrastinating.
- By acting sooner you are much more in control and you are able to head off many potential problems and misunderstandings.
Ways to Over-Respond to Every Event Immediately
Every time you’re surprised, make a significant personal change.
Every time something good or bad surprises you it’s time to make an even bigger change than that event in your life.
Every time you’re surprised, make a significant personal change.
Every time something good or bad surprises you it’s time to make an even bigger change than that event in your life.
Have you noticed that you tend to come up against very similar situations over and over again? Life keeps presenting you a message almost as if it was a test. Life asks: “Did you get the message yet? No? Okay here it is again…”
Making huge changes in your life is how you pass life’s test and prove that you got the message. Hopefully the change you made will work out just fine. If it doesn’t you’ll soon find an even better way.
Look for five choices you have, in every single circumstance.
Most of us are lazy and look for a quick fix.
Look for five choices you have, in every single circumstance.
Most of us are lazy and look for a quick fix.
We analyze a difficult situation and quickly come up with 2-3 choices for resolution. But every issue has at least 5 options, not just 2 or 3. Stretch your thinking to find them. Otherwise you will keep applying the same solutions over and over and get no-where.
Remember: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome…”
In short: Under-Responding.
Never decide, but let your body choose for you.
You have probably been trained to think rationally by collecting data, weighing the pros and cons and then making a decision. Have you noticed that your decisions are rarely best?
Never decide, but let your body choose for you.
You have probably been trained to think rationally by collecting data, weighing the pros and cons and then making a decision. Have you noticed that your decisions are rarely best?
Most decisions made rationally end up being average and middle of the road. But middle of the road will never be the fast lane! You ignore a lot of information by using only your mind. Start letting your body choose for you.
Your body responses are a whole lot more eloquent, accurate, and straight to the point than mental processes. Your body has much more sensors and cells than your brain and your body knows much more about you than just your brain. It takes courage to trust yourself (your body) and to start listening to physically felt messages.
Be extremely curious about your reactions.
The last time you had a strong emotion for example fear or pain did you ask yourself why or were you to busy reacting and justifying? Instead of trying to stop your reactions, let them play out and use them as a way to get to know yourself a lot better.
The last time you had a strong emotion for example fear or pain did you ask yourself why or were you to busy reacting and justifying? Instead of trying to stop your reactions, let them play out and use them as a way to get to know yourself a lot better.
Remember: “Beware the fury of the patient human.” Because the patient are just bottling up there anger, which is a lack of an important social skill. I am not saying you have to fly off the handle (though for some people, it would be a step in the right direction).
For your convenience here is a scale of human emotions:
A scale of your emotions would look something like this:
A scale of your emotions would look something like this:
(1 = Highest Level of Energy, 22 = Lowest Level of Energy)
1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/ Appreciation
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4. Positive Expectation/Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame
16. Discouragement
17. Anger
18. Revenge
19. Hatred/Rage
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness
(Source: Ask and it is given, by Abraham-Hicks)
Make a personal strategy out of over-responding.
When something significant happens, ask yourself: “What is the best way that I can over-respond to this situation?” Start to develop a wonderful feeling about your own creativity, that guides you to reap more and more fruits.
When something significant happens, ask yourself: “What is the best way that I can over-respond to this situation?” Start to develop a wonderful feeling about your own creativity, that guides you to reap more and more fruits.
Over time and with practice you will master the unraveling of problematic knots.
Stop hanging out and spending time with people who are reactors or non-responders.
Many people are “energy vampires” others are numb and could care less about you and your happiness.
Stop hanging out and spending time with people who are reactors or non-responders.
Many people are “energy vampires” others are numb and could care less about you and your happiness.
Both of these groups are stuck and should be avoided like the plague, because they will try to pull you down into their cesspool. When you buck their norms by over-responding your way out of the emotional cesspool they will think and maybe even say that you’ve gone bonkers.
Seek out people who are on a similar path as you are. These people will provide refreshing support while you learn the best ways for you to over-respond. Find and work with a good coach, that understands this principle and is compatible with you.
Turn every issue into a non-recurring event.
I like to call this one “Be a problem free zone”. How? First identify a problem in your life that really bugs you. Now take 10 steps to make sure that it or anything similar will never happen again for the rest of your life.
I like to call this one “Be a problem free zone”. How? First identify a problem in your life that really bugs you. Now take 10 steps to make sure that it or anything similar will never happen again for the rest of your life.
Remember: One of the great benefits of over-responding is that it can fix problems once and for all.
Experiment, experiment, experiment as you over-respond. It’s ok to make mistakes.
Lets look at an example of how over-responding can work. First you will probably just do the obvious things that come to mind.
Experiment, experiment, experiment as you over-respond. It’s ok to make mistakes.
Lets look at an example of how over-responding can work. First you will probably just do the obvious things that come to mind.
The key here is to push further and experiment with completely different ways. Lets say you got fired. The normal first response is to react with frustration, anger or sadness. Then you might start searching for the next job while beating yourself up that you need to work even harder or better next time.
And that is all a reasonable and healthy thing to do. However over-responding you might take a second look at your business, career or industry. Don’t just correct the reason you lost your job, but also become a person so obviously not afflicted by that particular issue, so that nothing similar can ever occur in your life again.
Don’t just improve a little here and there, Evolve!
Improving is to do something better or smarter, evolving means to fundamentally and permanently change. Responding and solving a problem are examples of improving.
Improving is to do something better or smarter, evolving means to fundamentally and permanently change. Responding and solving a problem are examples of improving.
Over-responding and becoming free of problems or as I call it being a problem free zone are samples of evolving. In other words: “Don’t clone -- mutate”. That way you will never become a dinosaur.
Over-Respond immediately, not just gradually in tiny baby steps.
Over-Respond immediately, not just gradually in tiny baby steps.
Here is where it can get tricky. Have you ever trained for example a dog? (Pardon this analogy) If you wait a long time before rewarding good and punishing bad behavior you will only confuse the poor animal, because it won’t understand the link between the behavior and the consequences.
Your body’s reaction is immediate and if you wait too long to over-respond you’re missing the chance to strengthen the connection between your body and your mind.
Closing
Experiment with over-responding and bypass your usual way of making decisions.
Closing
Experiment with over-responding and bypass your usual way of making decisions.
See what you can learn. Over time you will over-respond automatically while steering your way to higher levels of success and not even notice how you’ve done it.
To your success!
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