Many people have heard and are aware of concepts like positive thinking, praying, visualizing, etc. and are trying to use them to achieve wellness, material and spiritual wealth, peace and more. Unfortunately most people are actually making things worse and sabotaging their progress while practicing these concepts.
In the last issue of RV America we discussed new years resolutions and the process of setting goals in general. I received a few calls regarding this topic and coached a few readers to help them gain clarity. Many of our readers have wonderful goals that they deserve to achieve. However asking for them through prayer, visualization, meditation or what ever way you prefer seems to be difficult for some.
For example one lady called regarding huge issues with her RV. I quickly noticed that she really wanted to resolve the problem and was doing a lot to push things along. She was talking to everyone that would listen, making phone calls, getting the Better Business Bureau involved, Lawyers, RV Magazines, etc. She also mentioned that she is a good Christian and was praying for resolution of the RV issue, better health for her husband and against her mom’s cancer.
All of her actions, her doing, was targeted towards fighting against these issues. Unfortunately all of her energy, her thoughts, her prayers and all of the energy, thoughts and prayers of everybody else that she talked to was adding to the issue and making it worse.
We humans are much more powerful than we think we are. Our thoughts are the seed of creation. Look at any object around you. It started out as an issue, then some creative person thought about a solution, got excited about the possible outcome, made a sketch or two, then a model, then production drawings, then the tools were made to mass produce and sell it.
Just think how your RV was built. The manufacturer didn’t start getting busy making the roof, then working down towards the wheels and after some sort of RV was standing there create a plan and then think what the requirements are. But that is how many of us operate!
That is one thing that gets us into trouble. However even worse is that on top of that we put so much energy in getting upset about the problem, that we just make it grow. Then we go and get other people involved and that just adds even more fuel to the fire.
Let us recap: THINK -> FEEL -> PLAN -> CREATE -> ENJOY In my experience of coaching people for over 30 years I have noticed, that all of the above only works when we start out with the correct thoughts. For example, when I worked with the lady that had the RV and cancer issues we discovered that all of her thoughts were targeted towards solving the issue and therefore growing it – instead of focusing on the outcome and fueling it.
She changed her thoughts from “the stupid lemon RV and the crooks that made it” and “mom is sick with cancer and needs to be healed” to “Winter Texan in a condo by the beach” and “mom enjoying her life with a high level of energy”. Now all the energy is off the issue, suffocating it and being used to attract and fuel the outcome that she desires and deserves.
The key is to rely on your feelings. Any strong feelings, good or bad need to be taken seriously. If the feeling is good, expand on it, enjoy it while it lasts and save it for a rainy day. If the feeling is bad, then find out what is causing it. What you want is camouflaged by the negative feelings you have. Then take the cause of the bad feelings, the issue, and turn it 180 degrees around into the extreme opposite, and focus on that new desired outcome. One way to turn a negative into a positive is to pretend to be a film director and scream “Cut! I want a re-take of this with the extreme opposite! Light, sound, camera, action!”
Another example: A young man is very excited about his own business, that he started about a year ago. Last weekend his father and financial partner showed up and started a nasty, physical fight with him. I won’t share the details with you because I don’t want to sabotage this man’s efforts by getting you to think about the issue and add fuel to it.
His first stab at turning this situation 180 degrees around into the extreme opposite was: “I want my father to stop harassing me, using me as a lightning rod, just go away, leave me alone and never come back again.” Now that was just going from bad to neutral; not taking the situation to the extreme. After some more work with him he came up with a wonderful outcome that has already started to create a fantastic relationship with his dad.
Please support him by thinking of the desired and positive outcome he wants: “I see my dad coming towards me with a spring in his walk and a huge grin on his hansom face. Once he is in front of me he gives me a bear hug, pats me on the back and tells me a joke that makes us both roll around on the floor and almost pee in our pants.” (Excuse my French)
Now thinking this once will not necessarily create a small miracle. However the more he thinks about this, adds feelings of excitement, joy and love and even smells his dad’s aftershave and hears the words spoken; the closer he is coming towards the desired outcome, and now that you too are supporting him with your thoughts and feelings I am convinced that his relationship with his dad will bloom rapidly.
Conclusion:
Be careful what trash you let into your head. What issues others are pointing out and broadcasting to manipulate you to think and add power to their advantage. Think about what outcome you want for yourself. Then add all the feelings, smells, sounds, touches and seeing you can to it. The life forces what ever you personally call them will support you so that you can achieve what you want with a minimum of busy doing.
Bonus:
One of my clients found an interesting audio CD that can provide you with some deeper going insights. However this CD is not for the faint of heart and might be too extreme for some people. Please contact me if you would like to receive a free copy.
------------- Thank you for the wonderful feedback regarding my last article. What thoughts would you like to share? I am eager to hear from you. Your business, career and life success is my passion!
Coach Karl Karl@CoachKarl.com
www.CoachKarl.com
(361) 549-3790
How to stop your Thoughts from Sabotaging your Success! - To learn more about this author, visit Karl Ruegg's Website.
Like this article? Share it with your friends
 |
Related Articles |
|
 What Is A Life Coach
|
| |
Dear Jane,
What is a life coach and how do I know if I need one?
What I do as a life coach is help my clients recognize and let go of the sabotaging thoughts and behaviors that have undermined their success, joy...
|
|
Confusion - Time to Refocus
|
| |
Our world seems confused right now! Should we move forward or stay right where we are? Who knows the answers?
|
|
Are You Sabotaging Your Job Search?
|
| |
Unfortunately, there are a number of things that most people do while they are in the midst of a job search that sabotage themselves. When you understand what to do and what not to do, you'll ultimately land the job...
|
|
Finding SelfWorth
|
| |
Dear Jane,
I know I'm self-critical. But how do I stop? My self-esteem is at about a zero and the lower it's gone, the worse it seems others treat me.
In my self-help book, Enough Is Enough!, I talk ...
|
|
Help Im My Own Worst Enemy
|
| |
Do you know what's standing between you and success? Do you know what the greatest threat to your ultimate happiness is? Are you sitting down for this? It could be you!! Terri provides ten of the most common belief...
|
|
|
Karl Ruegg's
Complete
List Of
Business-Coach
Articles
|
|
|
If you enjoyed this article, get Karl Ruegg's Complete List of Business-Coach Articles For FREE!
|
| |
|
|
|
![[Get Copyright Permissions]](http://license.icopyright.net/images/icopy-w.gif){kind=small}
