People who are shy can be either introvert or extrovert. So much
research points to this. And one researcher, Bernardo Carducci,
psychology professor and director of the Shyness Research Institute at
Indiana University Southeast in New Albany, finds there are far more
shy people than introverts. It's estimated to be as high as 40 percent
of Americans who are shy!
How do you know the difference between shy and introvert?
1) People
who are shy often feel anxious or nervous around other people - it's a
reaction to what's going on outside the person who could be either an
introvert or extrovert.
2) People who are more
introverted, aren't shy or nervous they just choose when to be around
other people and how much. It's because their internal energy setting
controls an actual need to be alone.
3) Carducci
has an everyday example of how to know the difference: at a party or
business networking event you notice people standing on the edges of
the group of people. The introvert is there because they are
contemplating when to choose to enter the conversations, any of them.
It's a choice they are making. The shy is around the edges because they
have to be; their anxiousness is keeping them there.
To
be clear, you can find introverts who are shy and extroverts who are
shy. It's important to both make that distinction as well as drop that
assumption.
If you are an introvert it's important that you know this
because the label will keep you believing that you are shy when in
reality, your very innate strength as an analyzer and planner, can help
you manage the situations where you want to have your confidence shine
through.
With people who have more of an introvert preference,
their energy must be charged fully to be able to manage the situations
that are going to draw energy out of them. People who are shy, can
benefit from some of the introvert strategies that manage their energy.
But shy does NOT equal introvert.