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Introvert Myth - Why Are Introverts Perceived as AntiSocial?
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| Guest post by: Patricia Weber |
Article Overview: The words, social introvert, might seem like an oxymoron to some people. The truth is that most introverts are social but because we might be social differently than extroverts, we get labeled antisocial. So what's going on?
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Introvert Myth - Why Are Introverts Perceived as AntiSocial?
The words, social introvert, might seem like an oxymoron to some
people. The truth is that most introverts are social but because we
might be social differently than extroverts, we get labeled antisocial.
So what's going on?
We're aiming for meaningful conversation.
Since we get energy from internally, we just don't go on and on in
conversations, in particular conversations with a good deal of small
talk. As an introvert I'm choosy about my friends and tend to gravitate
to ones can hang in with a deep intellectual, interesting or even
controversial conversation. My energy levels drop if I have to stay too
long in chit chat.
We're looking for deep relationships.
One extrovert (my husband), one introvert (me) are seemingly social
butterflies in their own way. We've both been in sales for 30 years.
When my husband attends a networking event - it's usually more often,
more people and a collection of more business cards. On those less
frequent times I do network purposefully, I sometimes go with him, seek
out just the people I want to meet and come up with fewer business
cards.
There's the social butterfly and the honey bee. The
social life of a honey bee is a solitary one. And yet, scientists study
their behavior because of how well they work together, pollinate and
play a critical and essential role to agriculture as a whole. The bees
work tirelessly. If you find yourself wanting to have alone time
instead of joining the crowd after work for a little happy hour,
certainly an extroverted sanctioned event, you can absolutely take in
the happy hour. If the honey bee can do it - and lead a satisfying
solitary life, then so can introverts.
Are some introverts
anti-social? Maybe; you might call them a loner. But then again, I bet
you have also seen and been around anti-social extroverts.
Let's drop the labels.
Even in those cursory meetings with chit-chat and small talk that people, mainly those with an extroversion preference, there's many times an intention. The intention is to - develop and deepen the connection. The chit-chat path may take a turn and then, there is - meaningful conversation and deep relationships. But oh wait, that was the introvert's intention from the start!
Why do people say introverts are anti-social: because we do social differently.
That's really all it is.
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