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Reacting too soon from your emotions

Guest post by: Laurie Martin

Article Overview: The way we choose to communicate is important. You are not responsible for how others interpret your information, but you are responsible for your method of communication. We want to be considerate of others and have our intention be understood at the same time. There is a lot more going on than just our words. Our emotions behind our words, our intention behind our message, our vocal tones, and our body language will affect the way our message is received. There is a difference between responding versus reacting. If you react too quickly from your emotions it doesn’t give you a chance to discern or internalize and you are allowing your emotions to control you. To respond in an emotional mature way, take some time to BE RESPONSIBLE and process your emotions. If your tone is “harsh” during many of your communications, it’s possible tha

Reacting too soon from your emotions

The way we choose to communicate is important. You are not responsible for how others interpret your information, but you are responsible for your method of communication. We want to be considerate of others and have our intention be understood at the same time. There is a lot more going on than just our words. Our emotions behind our words, our intention behind our message, our vocal tones, and our body language will affect the way our message is received. There is a difference between responding versus reacting. If you react too quickly from your emotions it doesn't give you a chance to discern or internalize and you are allowing your emotions to control you. To respond in an emotional mature way, take some time to BE RESPONSIBLE and process your emotions. If your tone is "harsh" during many of your communications, it's possible that there is unresolved anger or hurt.

In order to respond in a responsible way versus react, you want to check in and discern if you're reacting from a place of fear or love. It's important to connect with love and communicate from this place. If it's not from love, the receiver will feel that energy. Try this exercise. Sit quiet; take several deep belly breaths. Connect with unconditional love from above and breathe this love into your heart. Ask yourself these questions:

• What is your intention you're trying to get across? Say, ‘My intention is for my message to be from my heart and to communicate in a calm, loving & respectful manor. I will speak from my heart in a loving tone."

• What is the best way to communicate so the other person understands my intention?

• Are you reacting from fear, irritation, hurt?

• What do you need?

• How can you see this situation from a higher place of wisdom?

• What is the end goal you want to achieve?

• How can I respond without personalizing the situation or having to defend myself?

• How can I respond without pointing fingers and lecturing on how he/she should be?

Every time you're about to speak, you will not have time to go through all of these questions. But, after practicing for a few weeks, you will continue to improve. May you have many loving and harmonious conversations!

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