Realizing Your Inner Strength
Written by:
David Carter
Article Overview: Many people I talk with today are focused on operational strategies and tactics for their company to survive in today’s economic downturn. While this is very important, I would like to focus on the “other side of the coin.” And that is the side that your leadership skills and energy reside on.
Whether you are an owner or senior team member, are you achieving your inner strength for all those in your company who need your leadership? How do you as a leader motivate yourself? Here are some key guides I have learned and observed.
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Realizing Your Inner Strength
Many people I talk with today are focused on operational strategies and tactics for their company to survive in today’s economic downturn. While this is very important, I would like to focus on the “other side of the coin.” And that is the side that your leadership skills and energy reside on. Whether you are an owner or senior team member, are you achieving your inner strength for all those in your company who need your leadership? How do you as a leader motivate yourself? Here are some key guides I have learned and observed:
Focus on your confidence level. To exhibit confidence, focus on what you want to accomplish, not what is wrong or not going as planned. Yes you must deal with reality, but avoid “drama glue.” Drama glue is characterized by continued focus on all that is not right to the extent that it becomes a drama—we talk, think and live the drama. This drama becomes glue that keeps you stuck. Get rid of the drama glue by talking, thinking, and living what you want to be, what you want your people to be, and what you want your company to be. Strong confidence is the result.
Take time to step back from your “day to day” operations (I know this is crucial today), and refocus and regenerate on your company purpose and mission. Why are we doing this? Keep your bigger picture in mind and put perspective to your challenges.
Stay engaged with your staff, customers and vendors. As Tom Peters would say, manage by wandering around! You will realize immense energy from understanding and embracing their concerns and hearing how much they need your leadership today more than ever.
Picture your toughest challenges as an exciting puzzle that you are in the process of solving. Can you think out of the box? No matter how difficult your situation is, you can get through it by focusing on the present moment. You can get through anything one day at a time.
Leaders and owners can re-energize by reaching out to other minds such as your trusted advisors, supportive friends, colleagues and other key relationships. Remember, he who taps into the most minds wins!
And finally, Jack Welch states “Leadership has different seasons. It’s easy to find personal motivation in an upswing. In the heat of battle, however, you need to dig deeper and discover your “indomitable soul” – so you can share it with the people who need you most.”
There are many words of wisdom here. Key in on those that you resonate with the most and take action, now and every day, to realize your inner strength.
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About the Author: David Carter
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David Paul Carter draws on 30+ years of success as an experienced business executive, entrepreneur, strategist, advisor, and dedicated community leader. He is the founder of David Paul Carter, LLC, business strategy consultants for closely held, family managed and entrepreneurial growth companies confronted with change.
His career has taken him around the world living and working in the US, New Zealand and the UK. He has held senior executive positions within the Thomson Corporation, Wolters Kluwer, and Ziff-Davis publishing companies. In addition, he successfully founded and developed two businesses: American Trade Exchange, an import and export company, and a PC Systems Development and Training company. These have provided excellent environments to "practice what he teaches."
David is a certified partner of Gazelles International for the Philadelphia Area. His company is one of only 40 firms qualified to teach and implement Mastering the Rockefeller Habits. He serves on the Boards of the Entrepreneurs Forum of Philadelphia (currently VP of Strategic Planning), and the Exit Planning Exchange (XPX) of Philadelphia.
Contact David at (215) 732-2230, or email him at dcarter@davidpaulcarter.com, or visit www.davidpaulcarter.com.
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Re: your personality type?
- Hi Michelle!
If you are the present-moment focused, this is your result. If it doesn't seem spot on, I'll give you the big-picture focused result.
The Enjoyer of Life. You enthusiastically enjoy experiencing the five senses, creative pursuits and social harmony in the here-and-now. You are independent, socially upbeat, and enjoy creating a positive and happy atmosphere. Despite your outgoing “persona,” you are a private person and few people truly know you well). #1 Strength:
Comfort Creator #2 Strength: Expressing Social Feeling
1) Comfort Creator -- Creating a comfortable physical environment. Feels the ?ve senses vividly. Adept at using objects, or ?nding or building objects, to make a physical space the most soothing to all ?ve senses. Also organizing so objects are easily found in a convenient way. Both the physical comfort of self, and others, is important. Often feel a need to ensure those close to them are warm enough, fed, rested, etc. Will easily offer help to others in these areas, lending a jacket, or offering a snack.
2) Expressing Social Feeling Setting an emotional tone, vibrant, energetic, or serious, etc. Concerned with the emotional environment as it?s happening -- the vibe of people at a party, the tone of a situation, other people?s responses. Setting the tone -- dramatic and serious, or lighthearted and a celebration. Emotional displays are important for knowing how others are feeling, whether bad or good. Someone talking in a monotone about feelings seems insincere. Feels should be shown, so they can be read by others.
Your best type would be:
The Conceptualizer. You are an inventive creator of logical systems of possibilities that you use to create processes,
products or strategies. Socially, you are sometimes quiet, but also find yourself acting as the life of the party,
especially when you get caught up in a debate or entertaining topic of conversation. #1 Strength: Generating
Future Possibilities #2 Strength: Systematic/Rule Logic
Re: your personality type?
- Hi Zac,
If you're on the fence about 2 and 3, I'd think more about them. Big picture people tend to be oblivious to the detail of what is happening NOW -- the colors on a restaurant wall, the layout of someone's apartment, the color of people's shirts at a party, etc. They instead notice the "theme" -- an upscale restaurant (who knows what color), casual shirts at a party (not sure what style), etc. A "trendy" apartment, but who knows where the bathroom was.
Gut feeling people tend to act w/o all the facts, and are comfortable following that instinct. "Thinker" people will choose something even if they HATE it, just because it "makes sense." Where as that makes no sense to a gut person. Thinkers are more "black and white" where as gut instinct feelers are more "gray area" people.
But going with your selections...
1. Within
2. Big Picture
3. Gut Feeling
4. Spontaneous
The Reflective Seeker of Truth. You are a passionate searcher of big-picture meaning and strive to help others with your empathetic listening skills. Socially, you are usually quiet, but can be a social butterfly when you feel like it, though it can be draining to do so for too long. You have a very silly and goofy side, enjoy people and need time to quietly reflect #1 Strength: Predicting Future Likelihoods #2 Strength: Expressing Social Feeling
Predicting Future Likelihoods Predicting what is likely to happen, based on past events, themes, or
what has historically been true. Deciding what will happen, based on past events. These predictions are usually spoken with con?dence and certainty. A thread or common idea is drawn from the past, and these ideas are used to decide what will happen in the future. Authorities and past situations are extremely important for deciding what will happen in the future.
Expressing Social Feeling Setting an emotional tone, vibrant, energetic, or serious, etc. Concerned with the emotional environment as it?s happening -- the vibe of people at a party, the tone of a situation, other people?s responses. Setting the tone -- dramatic and serious, or lighthearted and a celebration. Emotional displays are important for knowing how others are feeling, whether bad or good. Someone talking in a monotone about feelings seems insincere. Feels should be shown, so they can be read by others.
If that is your type, your #1 match would be...
The Strong-Willed Go-Getter. You are a bold sculptor of the here-and-now in order to achieve immediate results following a logical system for making decisions. You add a fun, upbeat vibe to social events and are often the most gregarious person in the room. #1 Strength: Commander of Physical Space #2 Strength: Systematic/Rule Logic
Book: Soloing: Realizing Your Life's Ambition
- Book: Soloing: Realizing Your Life's Ambition
Harriet Rubin
1999
Soloing has two meanings: "going it alone" and "being complete in yourself." But you don't just leave - a company/a career/a paycheck - and cross over to a more satisfying life. There's more to it.
1. The first freedom is regaining your sense of identity
2. The second freedom in independence - having complete command and control over your time and the work you do.
3. The third freedom is income - Solo money is alive. You work harder, but you enjoy it more
4. The fourth freedom is illumination - a professional builds a career, a soloist builds a portfolio and a life free of boredom
TOC
Definition
1. Your work was your life. Now let your life be your work
2. Making the break that makes you whole
3. What to do with the best of your life: a test
4. Out of the chorus line and into the spotlight
5. Brand-new you
Sculpture
1. Bend the world to fit the palm of your hand
2. Doing work that matters
3. Sell your soul to the Buddha you meet on the road
Night Time
1. Rejection?
2. So alone
3. F Dover
Daybreak
When Thoreau left the lights on at Walden Pond
Harvest
1. Great work finds you
2. Serving the Higher Voice
3. Thoreau.com
Harness
1. Time is your only real asset
2. Love like you've never been hurt, dance like nobody's watching, and work like you don't need the money
3. Security measures
4. How not to work for your Uncle [Sam]
Surprise and delight
1. What I learned without Adult supervision
Resources and more
Books for Women Entrepreneurs
- There's a thread for good books in the Resources folder, but it doesn't target books for businesswomen particularly, so I figured I'd start such a thread here.
It doesn't matter how successful you are in your business - it's always possible to learn something new.
In subsequent posts I give Table of Contents and brief descriptions for various titles - most of them devoted to the businesswoman - and sometimes a review. If anyone else has read a review, or has read the book and found it useful, please comment!
1. The Old Girl's Network
2. Mother's Work
3. The 7 Greatest Truths About Successful Women
4. Pitch Like A Girl
5. Workplace Warrior
6. Treasure Hunt: Inside the Mind of the Modern Consumer
7. Contingency Planning & Disaster Recovery
8. She Wins, You Win
9. Napoleon On Project Management
10. Why Good Girls Dont' Get Ahead, But Gutsy Girls Do
11. Comeback Moms: How to Leave Work, Raise Children, and Restart your Career even If you Haven't Had a Job in Years
12. The One Minute Millionaire
13. Talking From 9 to 5
14. Soloing: Realizing Your Life's Ambitions
15. 101 Best Home Based Businesses for Women: Everything You Need to Know About Getting Started on the Road To Success
16. Work With Passion: How to Do What You Love for a Living. Revised and Expanded
17. Fail-Proof Your Business: Beat the Odds and be Successful
18. Confidence: How Winning Streaks and Losing Streaks Begin and End
19. Women Don't Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide
20. Millionaire Women Next Door: The Many Journeys of Successful American Businesswomen
21. Start Small, Finish Big: Fifteen Key Lessons to Start - and Run - Your Own Successful Business
22. Rewired, Rehired or Retired: A Global Guide for the Experienced Worker
23. The Martha Rules: 10 essentials for achieving success as you start, build or manage a business
24. The Essentials of Entrepreneurship: What it takes to create Successful Enterprises
25. Net Ready: Strategies for Success in the E-conomy
26. The Promotable Woman
27. Leave The Office Earlier: The Productivity Pro shows you how to do more in less time and feel great about it
28. The Work At Home Balancing Act: The professional resource guide for managing yourself, your work, and your family at home
29. Secrets of Six-Figure Women
Meet Kim Kleeman - Shakespeare Squared: Named one of Inc.'s
- THIS IS PRETTY INTERESTING. WISH I'D THOUGHT OF IT FIRST!!!!
Meet Kim Kleeman: Shakespeare Squared: Named one of Inc.'s 500 Fastest Growing Private Companies in America.
Recognized as one of Working Mother magazine's 25 Best Small Companies. Awarded the title of Illinois Family Business of the Year. Lofty accomplishments for company founder Kim Kleeman, a woman who just a few short years ago swore she would never own her own business!
Having grown up the child of business-owner parents, Kleeman knew well the stresses and demands that entrepreneurial life can place upon a family. She met her husband, Jay, on the first day of college, and together they earned their teaching degrees and started making plans for a modest but happy life. When Jay's stint as a student teacher strained the family budget, though, they both started doing subcontract work proofing elementary school textbooks. Before long, they were taking on bigger jobs and hiring other teachers to freelance on various projects, and from that point on, they never looked back.
In 2003, the couple founded Shakespeare Squared, an educational development company that employs an army of freelancers to write and edit materials such as textbooks, lesson plans, teacher guides, activity workbooks, and test-preparation materials. Initially a home-based business managed by Kim while Jay continued his work as a high school teacher, the company now has a full-time staff of 20 and is branching out in new directions, publishing its own materials and offering an educational editing certification process. In three years' time, the company has grown by an incredible 815 percent, bringing in $2.3 million in revenue last year.
What we learned from Kim: That the most incredible resource for launching might very well be your own friends and family. Kim started this business with her husband; her best friend since high school is her director of human resources; her sister is a remote project coordinator; her lawyer brother weighs in on various matters; her mom is a managing editor; and her parents are her de facto advisory board, with whom she meets every morning to share a cup of tea and conversation in their backyard.
Words of Wisdom
"Trust your instincts and empower your people."
From Teacher to Tycoon
"I don't know if I had a big 'aha' moment about starting a business; our growth was really organic. After my second child I immediately got pregnant with my third and there was no turning back, because we weren't going to be able to afford day care for two babies on two teachers' salaries. I had been working from home and continuously had one or two projects going, and I set a goal of having 10 projects running simultaneously. So after my son was born, I enacted my own guerilla marketing plan and e-mailed every editorial director at the big publishing companies, looking for projects. We soon landed our first big client, HarperCollins Children's Books."
Not About the Money
"I just wanted to make the best company that I could and be happy doing it. If that included millions of dollars, great, but that wasn't really the goal. I didn't know at first how much work we would end up getting, but I think the extensive classroom experience of our people sets us apart in this field. As teachers ourselves, we understand the needs of our clients and we deliver on that."
It Takes a Village
"We employ over 400 freelance writers. Most are former teachers but we pull from publishing, journalism, and other fields as well. We developed a writing test that covers everything from copyrighting to educational taboos, and prospective freelancers must earn at least a B+. A nice plus with our business is the opportunity we can offer teachers for life beyond teaching. I really promote teachers in the classroom, but if the classroom just isn't your thing and you're still passionate about education, there is a place for you here."
Those Who Can, Teach
"Educators in this country are getting a bad rap. We ask them to perform many roles and yet we're not supporting them as a society. Prospective teachers must student teach to become certified and are expected to not work while doing so, but there are so many people from diverse backgrounds who would love to teach-and who would be great teachers-who can't afford to do that. The Shakespeare Squared Foundation helps pay for prospective teachers to student teach. My passion is to get the right teachers in place, because that makes all the difference for students."
The Best and the Brightest
"It is definitely a challenge to find and retain the best talent, because I am up against large publishers. I have to provide a different culture and be creative in the way I offer benefits. We really believe in the work/life balance and offer such things as flex hours, remote work capabilities, and a working-parents room in the office. We've been recognized for these efforts, and because of them, our turnover is very low."
Networking 101
"You have to go into a networking situation with the idea in mind that there will be one person in the crowd who can make a difference to you, and you have to find that person. You may be talking to someone who makes shoelaces and has nothing in common with your business, but she may know someone in your field or know about an interesting business practice that could translate to your own. But the bottom line is that if it's not the right conversation, you politely cut it short and move on."
Strength in Numbers
"There is so much value in the process of incubating an idea with other women. I am always looking for women who are coming together creatively and collaboratively because things flow from it that you would never dream. When women support other women, we empower each other to take charge of our lives, whether by owning our own businesses or making a career change or making decisions about our families."
Best Advice
"I read in Working Mother magazine that women CEOs need to take the ability that they have in their work life to delegate responsibility and create a management team and apply that to their home life as well. So I really try to think of running my household the same way I run my business; whether it's cleaning ladies or repairmen, I find people I trust and have them take care of tasks that I don't need to spend time on. This has relieved a lot of guilt and allowed me to focus on the things that are really important."
Most Rewarding Moments
"Winning the Working Mother award as one of the 25 Best Small Companies felt pretty great because it showed that having a unique workplace does pay off. But even better is realizing that your message is getting across to your people. I love seeing quotes at my team's desks about goals and achieving your dreams, all of the exact things I say to empower them. It's cool to realize that there isn't a lot of cynicism, and that people are really buying into these ideas and making them their own."
Parting Thoughts ...
"My secret weapon is the news articles that I send to my team."
"I will retire when I have no more dreams to accomplish."
"I will always think of myself as a teacher."
"My greatest strength is my enthusiasm."
This featured lady was profiled by Noelle Pechar Hale, a freelance writer living in Los Angeles.
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