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Absolutely Positive

Written by: Neil Crofts

Article Overview: Staying positive is the best way to get positive results - especially in a recession.

Absolutely Positive

Fear of failure haunts many of us, but what is failure in this sense and how does it happen?



As Lance Armstrong says “Pain is temporary, quitting lasts forever.”



There are two sides to “failure” the most obvious is to try before we give up. The most pernicious is when we give up before we try.



Lets take the obvious one first. When we try before we give up - giving up is mostly a decision. A decision we take when we get to a point of pain, discomfort or recognition that what we are doing is not working.



We might decide that we would prefer to do something else, or we might find that there is another way, that we could not have foreseen before we started. It is not easy to really describe that as failure. It is just a decision.



Making a decision is a learning process, it is a recognition of changed circumstances that alters the strategy. It is not failure.



When it is not a decision, it is force majeure. Some outside element crashes into your strategy and you have to change strategy, but this is still not a failure. It is still a decision, albeit one where your choices are reduced.



I often find this when cycling. If I am climbing up a hill with another rider and I find myself going into the red zone for too long, I might recognise that the other rider is stronger and change strategy, back off and hope to catch up later. Or I might keep pushing and just run out of steam. I don’t see either option as failure, they are different strategies for doing my best, if neither works it is force majeure.



The pernicious one is where we give up before we try, a sort of self censorship that is usually based on a fear of “failure”. And as we have seen above failure is a phantom. It is not real.



When we test this notion of failure, we usually find that it has more to do with some one else’s idea of what we should or should not, can or cannot do. It is not our fear it is someone else’s we do not own or need to own that fear.



Whatever action, project or decision you might be struggling with put it to that test. Is it really your fear of failure or is it someone else’s?



If you are not prepared to “own” the fear then it is time to commit and move forwards. Belief precedes reality - not the other way around. Someone always has to believe that something is possible before it can happen - even if they are the only one. You can always adjust or change your strategy later.



The outcome may not be exactly what you expected, in fact it is very likely to be different. The outcome will be exactly what you need it to be, to learn whatever you need to learn to take you to the next stage of your journey.

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