Doing Whatever It Takes For Success
Every person I’ve spoken to lately has experienced some form of loss. The rich are losing money, the middle class are losing their homes and jobs, the poor are just getting poorer. If you’re still listening to the media, you surely must feel as though the world is crashing down around you. It was bad enough a few months ago with all the catastrophic natural disasters. Now, all our survival mechanisms have gone on red alert due to the economic situation occurring not only in our country but around the world. Even with a bailout, it still seems to be one big gigantic mess all the way around.
So what’s the solution? Quite simply, we have to roll our sleeves up and get to work. That’s right, get down to business, keep moving forward and don’t look back. Yes it’s bad, very bad, but the solution is not to dwell on how bad it is and go into depression. The Great Depression was aptly named, not only because of the economic depression, but because the depression of individuals was so severe that suicides were the result. Did being in a state of depression make things better? No. Did the guy who threw himself off a bridge do society or anyone else a favor? No. He took the easy way out. He took the coward’s way out. He became one less puzzle piece that was needed to get things back to normal.
Yes, it feels awful when you’ve experienced a great loss. As someone who has experienced both loss and “down and out” in my lifetime, I know whereof I speak. I also know that after a “down and out” period there is an “up and onward” period. The very nature of duality provides us the opportunity to experience the opposite. For where there is darkness, there is light. Where there is poverty, there is wealth. Where there is good, there is bad. Where there is stagnation, there is action.
So, which will you choose? Will you choose to take action or will you choose to stay stagnate in a state of depression? It all comes down to “doing whatever it takes” to get the job done. Of course, there will be times when you may not like doing part of that job. But, if you keep your focus on the end result, you will get there much faster and with less frustration.
Once you become clear on your outcome or end result, you’ll be in a better position to determine what it takes to get the job done. Sometimes looking at the outcome can be daunting, especially when you don’t know where to begin. In the instance of rebuilding wealth, if you look at the steps you took in the past, you can easily repeat them. Granted, you may not have time on your side this time, but you can nonetheless rebuild. If you factor in the unknown, you can have hope on your side. For things can, and usually do, turn around and sometimes pleasantly surprise us. For every thing there is a season. The key is to look at what steps need to be taken and do whatever it takes (keeping integrity in tact) to get the job done.
Many times when a person has not achieved a desired goal, it is simply because they were not willing to do whatever it took to achieve it. The excuses run the gamut, from being too tired, to not having enough time, not having enough money, not having enough freedom, etc. We’re all guilty of making excuses for why we can’t get something done on occasion. When we do accomplish our goals, if we look back, we know there were patterns of behavior and steps we took to accomplish them.
As you read the following example, notice where you may have incorporated some of these same steps when you have accomplished a worthy goal. Also notice which steps may have helped you accomplish your goal faster had you incorporated them.
I recently had a client who wanted coaching to help her achieve a goal of passing the veterinarian exam. She had taken the exam twice before and failed, therefore it was vitally important that she pass the next time. When I first met my client she was depressed, not only from failing the exams, but also from dealing with a nasty divorce. Here is what our sessions consisted of in order for her to achieve her goal:
• We first examined the area of self-care. We looked at how she was taking care of herself with regard to nutrition, sleep, her environment and stress level. She was on anti-depressants that weren’t working and wanted off. We created a plan to increase her energy level and reduce stress so that it fit her hectic schedule of work and study.
• We worked on strategies and solutions to deal with some of the emotional blocks that kept coming up for her. One of the key steps I teach my clients is to focus on their internal dialog so that it can be redirected to the positive.
• I asked her to think about others she knew who had passed the exam. In doing so, we examined their behaviors and habits, all the way down to their body posture while studying.
• We examined how much material needed to be covered so she could create a timeline to determine how much time would be required to cover all the material.
• We worked on changing patterns of behavior that involved keeping focused instead of getting sidetracked and making excuses for the work not getting done.
• We worked on developing the mentality of “doing whatever it takes” to get the job done. This is where most people give up because they are not focusing on the end result but rather the unpleasant task in the present. Sometimes it means pulling an all-nighter or giving up a social event in order to get the job done.
• We incorporated visualization exercises so that she could “see” herself as a successful veterinarian.
• And, finally, we worked on relaxation techniques so that her mind could easily retrieve the answers while taking the test.
About two months after my client took the veterinarian exam, I received a call from her. She had just received her test results and elatedly told me she finally passed the veterinarian exam!
The end result of my client passing the exam would not have occurred if any of the above steps had been left out. She needed to take care of herself so she would have energy to push forward. She had to remove negative internal dialog and replace it with positive “can do” thoughts. She had to know what steps to take. She had to stay focused. She had to believe her goal was possible. She had to have a frame of reference. And, most importantly, she had to do whatever it took to get her there. When she made the decision to do whatever it would take to realize her goal, she succeeded.