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Glad to Be Sad.
Written by: Howard MillerArticle Overview: A story from STORIES OF SHIFT: How to Deal with Difficult Situations and Change Them to Positive Opportunities
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Glad to Be Sad.
For the last two years there were four of us who met on a weekly basis. We would share what was going on for us, both personally and professionally. Each of us would have our turn to speak, and the others would have time to give feedback on what we said. It was a wonderful opportunity to put things in perspective and get things back on track when told we were crazy!
Now after two years, the group has ended. While we all valued this process tremendously, it started to become a hassle. Two members of the group had moved to new locations which involved fighting commuter traffic when we met. The weekly event became an all evening program. While it was nice to see everyone and I always felt better at the end of the evening, many times it was logistically difficult to pull together.
We all felt this way and decided we needed to end. After we decided to end we gave it some space and a couple of more weeks of meetings to provide closure.
At the final meeting, someone shared how they were feeling nostalgic, and almost sad. But there was apprehension in saying he was sad.
It was if by saying sad we were making the wrong decision in ending the group.
But it was sad to end.
Sad doesn’t mean wrong. It doesn’t mean right. It means sad.
It can be uncomfortable.
But it can be validating as well.
What we all shared and experienced was powerful, life changing, and validating.
We honored this by giving additional time to formally end.
We can be excited and nervous about the unknown of what happens after.
And we can be sad for giving up something meaningful.
When we recognize our sadness:
• We give honor to the experience
• We remember the importance and minimize the inconveniences
• We value being happy much more
So I was glad to be sad. It showed respect and reverence for something which deserved both.
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About the Author: Howard Miller RSS for Howard's articles - Visit Howard's website  Howard Miller teaches management skills to new managers, seasoned managers, entrepreneurs and executives. He is on the faculty of AMA (American Management Association) and teaches courses including Skills for New Managers, Increasing Managerial Effectiveness, and Successfully Managing People). Topics include delegation and motivation methodologies, conflict, how to deal with difficult people, understanding values and behavior, feedback and listening skills. Clients include mid-range to large companies such as the IRS, Blue Cross Blue Shield, IBM, state government, public school districts, and non profit organizations. Howard also does executive and business coaching with the Ken Blanchard organization. Howard is the author of two book; You're Full of Shift, which contains short stories which demonstrate shifting difficult situations to opportunities and The Manager Trap: 13 ½ Pitfalls to Avoid which showcases common traps and pitfalls managers fall into including using a 4 letter word beginning with F that they should avoid! Click here to visit Howard's website   My Door is Always Open Just the facts Jumping to Conclusions Dealing with Morons Always isnt every time |
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