Planning vs. Worrying
I was going on a retreat in Southern California. I decided I wanted to camp outside instead of staying in the dormitory style rooms. Also, since I was flying down I wanted to minimize what to bring on the plane with me.
I was going to my brothers the day before the retreat. I thought he had a tent but wanted to confirm this with him. After asking him I also inquired if I could borrow a couple of pillows.
His response was yes but also
You seem to be worrying about this a lot.
Button pushed.
I got pretty defensive and said
I’m not worried I’m planning.
His response
That’s something mom would say but you would say she was worrying.
Another button pushed.
Conversation over.
I wasn’t worrying I was planning so I could be organized.
But I started wondering about the difference between planning and worrying?
Actually in those moments I wasn’t wondering what the difference was I was worrying about what the difference was!
Which made me realize worrying was about being stuck in a moment, in a cycle with no out.
Planning was proactive and freeing.
Sure, too much planning could be confining and compulsive.
But when I planning instead of worrying:
• I’m attune to the present
• I’m not coming from fear but instead, looking for results
• I have the choice to worry about something else
So now I’ll plan on how I won’t let my brother push my buttons.
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Howard Miller
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Howard Miller is a consultant,
facilitator, trainer and coach with over
15 years of experience in helping
organizations, entrepreneurs, executives
and managers utilize their internal
behaviors and communication styles to
maximize communication and productivity
skills. This results in a clearer vision
and mission, specific and measurable goals
and actions, and more strategies to ensure
success.
Clients include mid-range to large
companies, both corporate and non profit
such as the IRS, Blue Cross Blue Shield,
IBM, state government, public school
districts, and non profit organizations.
Howard also does executive and business
coaching with the Tony Robbins and the Ken
Blanchard organizations.
Howard is a board member of the National
Speakers Association Northern California
Chapter and has been on the boards of ASTD
(American Society of Trainers and
Developers) and Golden Gate Business
Association. Howard has a Bachelor of
Science, Cum Laude, from the State
University of New York at Albany, a
Certificate in Training and Human Resource
Development from University of California,
Berkeley, and graduated from the Coaches
Training Institute (CTI).
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