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Relationship Intentions

Guest post by: Jacque Small

Article Overview: February is here and it's Valentines Day. On this auspicious day many of us buy our sweethearts a gift, do something special or go out for dinner. We celebrate the day treating our loved ones with special care. What about the rest of the year? How do you treat your loved one?

Relationship Intentions

The Biggest Valentines Gift Ever

February is here and it'sValentines Day. On this auspicious day many of us buy our sweethearts a gift, do something special or go out for dinner. We celebrate the day treating our loved ones with special care. What about the rest of the year? How do you treat your loved one?

What could happen in your relationship if you actually chose how you would like to treat your loved one? Set an intention for your relationship and then practice being that way for the rest of the year. Magic is possible.

We often think that we are the way we are and that we can't change the way we are being. I know that to be false. For the past two years I have actively been setting intentions for the way that I would like to show up in this world, for who I would like to be. Based on my observation of myself and feedback from others, I am substantially different than who I was. Therefore if I can choose to change who I am being, it only makes sense that I actively choose who I would like to be when I am in relationship with my partner.

When setting an intention we are actively choosing the ideal experience that we would like to have in our relationship and how we would like to feel. Two years ago when I was getting divorced I set the intention to be calm and bring our relationship to a close from a place of grace and ease. I was successful at this. Now that I am exploring a new relationship I once again have an opportunity to set an intention for how I would like to be in this relationship.

The questions I am asking myself are: How would I like to be? What is the experience I would like to have? How would I like to feel?

I would like to be:

• Treating others with love

• Flexible

• Curious, coming from a place of wonder

The experience I would like to have is:

• Fun

• Learning

• Being treated preciously

I would like to feel:

• Deeply loved

• Enjoyment

• Excitement

At this point in time you might be saying, yes I can want all of these things, but what happens if my partner does not want what I want or does not behave in a way that supports me to feel this way? This is a very good question, because we cannot control other people's behaviours, the only thing we can influence is our own behaviour. We can, however cause our own reality. This means we need to treat ourselves, and our partners the way we want to be treated and then invite them to join us. When we start being the way we want to be treated we start having this experience of ourselves. To experience learning we need to be curious and self-reflective. o feel love we need to treat others with love. When we start being who we want to be we will start having the feelings that we want to have. As you start treating your partner from this place consistently, don't be surprised if their behaviour towards you starts to change and you start receiving more of what it is that you want.

For me to have the relationship that I want and feel the way I want to feel, I need to start with my own way of being in the relationship and then be patient and observe what shows up for me.

What is missing in your relationship? Who are you willing to become to get it?

Wishing you relationship bliss.

Jacque

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