How To Catch Yourself
Have you ever wished someone could help you figure out exactly what you are doing and thinking that is getting in the way of your having more wealth? When I work with clients I get into their heads looking for the thought patterns they have that sabotage them without their even knowing it.
Thoughts of lack lead to action of lack and produce lack of desired results.
Below I have listed several common ways that people sabotage their wealth goals. If you notice yourself in one of these patterns … STOP!
The first step is always awareness. If you’re serious about having more money in your life, ask someone else to tell you when they see you doing any of these.
• Buyer’s remorse. You worry that you paid too much for something or feel guilty that you bought it. Either feel good about buying it or don’t do it. It is okay to say no if it doesn’t feel good. Many times people spend money so they won’t risk people knowing that they can’t afford it. Take care of your pocket book, not your ego.
• You make choices based on cost only versus quality and buying the perfect fit. You usually end up spending more because you have to buy something twice to get it right. Or have to pay a second party because the first service was less than desirable. By the way, I’m not saying that “getting a deal” is bad. It’s great! Just watch when money starts doing all your choosing for you.
• You consistently think stressful thoughts about money in general. Focus on relaxing, then go into brainstorming solutions.
• You think you should be farther ahead regarding money or success. I’ve never seen anybody move forward in life by beating themselves up. How can you be creative about solutions when you feel like a loser? You can go from broke to wealth by simply practicing different thinking and actions.
• Feeling bad about your debt. Hmmm …focusing on debt will get you where? Nowhere! It will keep you stuck in debt. Again, focus on attracting more money and make a plan for paying off the debt. Experts have many opinions on the best way to pay off debt. There is only one way, the way that works for you. If your plan gets you into action, that is perfect.
• Comparing yourself to Joe Blow. The comparison game always has a loser, someone who is less than. Let Joe inspire you to create more wealth. Again, focus on how you want to create a solution.
• Worrying about paying for a bill or an event that is happening more than a day from now.
Many things can happen between now and then. All of your power is in the now. The only thing you can do about the future in this moment is become clear on the outcome you desire and set yourself up to win. Worrying has never got anybody anything except a headache, heart attack, or disease. Be proactive by becoming solution focused and stop thinking about the “potential” problem.
You may think or do other things that sabotage you. Some may be very obvious and some may be subtle. Anytime you feel stress in regards to money, take note. Ask yourself what you are afraid may happen. Look for ways to get back into a centered, powerful state of mind. Remember that most stress about money is simply a story we have made up about what may happen in the future.
If you are going to make up a story, make it one that has you feeling wealthy.