Struggling is a favorite pastime of human beings. With all our needs well met, we’ll still find some reason to struggle. When my clients say, “I’m struggling!” I imagine them up to their neck in a mud pit, arms flailing but not going anywhere. It’s a painful place to be.
Small Thinking
Being stuck is almost always about a limited perspective. Our thoughts betray us because we’re thinking small. It begins with all this agonizing over how?! And suddenly we’re locked onto a lose/lose point of view.
What would it be like to simply stop struggling? That’s right. Escape instantly out of the mud pit every time we fall in? It would be like having endless “get out of jail free” cards in the game of life.
Zoom Out
If I want to see something clearly, I back away from the details. I want both a new way to think and a renewed sense of direction. I like to get way back, beyond the 30,000-foot view, so I go to another dimension to look at my current situation.
Cosmic Thinking
I imagine that I and all the other between-worlds souls are sitting around planning my life. Contracts are being made with this soul and that one; people who will help me learn what I need to in this next life. We are smart. We know exactly the set of circumstances that will be needed to take me to this next threshold.
I ask myself: “If I designed this struggle, what is it exactly that I’m trying to learn now? What is in my thoughts or belief systems that is no longer in alignment with who I am now?”
It’s amazing how quickly this works. As soon as I believe that I created this hole I’m stuck in and I know the way out, then I can see the way out. And, if I need a hand to get out of the mud pit, my coach is always a great ally.
Try this cosmic thinking with yourself and with your clients. And if you need an ally, hire a mentor coach. A Jump Start session with Prosperous Coach Mentor, Sue Brundege is quick relief from “the struggle”!
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