3 Tools to Improve Low Self Esteem by Lindel James

A week ago I asked a very vibrant and active woman what aspect of coaching she would want to utilize if she could work on anything in her business and /or her life.

Her response astounded me. She said, after a thoughtful pause, that she would want help on building up her self-esteem. I said, "Really, why do you think you have low self esteem?" Then, I saw the tears falling down her cheeks. I knew that I had definitely reached her very core.

This discussion has haunted me all week, and as I pondered these thoughts I realized that this wonderful person was carrying around an incredible burden that I believe is shared by many, many men and women. As a business coach I know that a high level of self esteem is critical to succeed in business and life.

It won't be easy. This process requires that you go deep within your personal core to determine what's impacting your self esteem. Once you do, the results can change your future, your life and the lives of those you touch. Ready? Here goes:

1. Look deep within yourself to determine what drives you and your self worth. Is it the opinion of other people? Personal achievement? Keep digging until you determine what it is that drives you. Keep asking yourself why you are suffering from low self esteem. Are you letting what someone else has said or done influence what you think about yourself? If this is true, stop it right now!

Know that you and only you are responsible for your life. You get to decide what makes you happy, what gives you energy and what drives your success. Make an agreement with yourself to take full responsibility for yourself, today!

Having great self esteem is as essential as food, shelter and water. You must pay attention to this basic need, now! No wavering. Measure your self esteem daily and take whatever measures necessary to keep your self esteem level high.

2. Begin a Gratitude, Intentions and Delegations Journal (GID). In it you will write your Gratitude's, Intentions and Delegations for each day.

Begin by writing what you are Grateful for; make sure you identify one or more things every day. It could be your health, your children, your job, we all have something every day to appreciate and be grateful for.

Write your Intentions. What do you plan to accomplish each day? Make your intentions reasonable and achievable. Make a list of no more than 3-6 activities or tasks that will more you forward in achieving your immediate or life goals.

Then get to putting out your Delegations. When you put out your delegations to your God, the Universe or whatever Higher Power you recognize, you are setting the most powerful stage for success. Remember that we are all human beings; we need the support of our High Power for many things. Delegate your wants and let them go, then, be ready to be amazed!

It is right, fitting and freeing. Once you have completed this exercise each day, breathe in the wonderful feeling of strength and empowerment that goes along with this daily exercise.

3. Look at your surroundings, your personal space. Make it yours. Organize it to fit the style and comfort of the person you want to be. Is it bright? soft? Clean and uncluttered?

Don't let clutter be a barrier to your support system to achieve great self esteem. Clutter saps energy and creativity as well as the ability to be a positive highly effective person. Make your space reflect the greatness of you, the incredible individual you are meant to be.

Mary Kay once said that "God didn't have time to make a nobody, only a somebody".... You are someone very import and special. Begin by being that special person to yourself; you will be surprised at your healthy dynamic self- esteem explosion.


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