Don't Hide Your Feelings From Yourself

It is truly hard to accurately judge a book by its cover-for more reasons than one! Most of us work so hard at maintaining the persona we believe others expect that we don't realize how much hurt and disappointment is being pressed down into the depths of our psyche so we don't have to acknowledge it. Unfortunately, the more feelings you force into submission, the greater the force of the explosion when it comes. And it will come.

Stress

As a young person, I was always aware that it took a great deal to push me into an angry outburst. I was also aware that when that threshold was reached, it was not a pretty sight! The reason the explosion was exponentially more intense than the action that sparked it was because the explosion represented the cumulative effect of many such actions that I had stuffed down inside me.

After one memorable event, I asked myself: "When did I shift from just hiding my feelings from others to hiding my feelings from myself?" And you know what I figured out? It didn't really matter when it started. What did matter was that I recognized that I was doing it and started trying to change it.

Stress is usually caused by a lack of knowledge about a situation or a lack of direction. Taking a proactive stance on your personal psychology will change your life. There is an approach that is absolutely necessary if you plan to stay ahead of those feelings that have been simmering for years. It is called developing a Self-Observer.

Using a Self-Observer increases your awareness of the connection between your thoughts and feelings and your subsequent actions. It also gives you something specific to work on. Thus, it reduces the pressure that is building inside you from all those suppressed feelings!

Watch for my article on your Self-Observer.

All the best on your quest,
Dannye Williamsen
The Solopreneur's Coach