Your Self-Observer

Changing the way you deal with your feelings and your actions requires the development of a Self-Observer. Oh, it's not what you may think. You know those voices in your head that always have some reaction to everything around you as well as to your thoughts and feelings? Well, that is NOT a Self-Observer.

Those voices are your subpersonalities. Each of them has an agenda, and most of them developed without your conscious awareness in order to meet some specific need that arose. We'll talk about them at a future date.

A Self-Observer, however, is deliberately developed by you. It is a mental part of you that observes how you think and feel about events in your life without making judgment.

Developing your Self-Observer requires you to consciously note when you have a negative reaction to any situation, such as shouting at someone, or simply feeling regret or frustration over the way something unfolds.

The Self-Observer takes note of what happens, how you feel about it, and how you react to it. It does all this without making excuses, beating up on you, or taking score.

It takes time and effort for this process of self-observation to become second nature to you, but it will, and it is a CRITICAL part of your spiritual growth.

Why Would You Want To Do This?

So, what is the value of being aware of how you feel?

Well, for one thing, you reduce the force of your angry explosions when they come.

Plus, you have the opportunity to change your future reactions to similar situations.

With this impartial information, you can view a situation objectively and start to feel that you are more in control of your life. These actions will lead to taking personal responsibility for your life experiences rather than blaming them on circumstances or other people. They move you from being a victim of your negative emotions to victor—able to consciously choose how you respond to life.

All the best on your quest,
Dannye Williamsen
The Solopreneur's Coach