LIVE HAPPY HABITS – LIVE A HAPPY LIFE!
“Most people are about as happy as they
make up their minds to be!” – Abraham
This quote resonates with me because it is the way I live my life. When you look at the date that the quote was written, it is a great reminder that ‘this is not new stuff’!
Happiness is a mindset. Happiness is a habit. My happiness is my personal responsibility!
There are some great ‘happiness habits’ that I practice daily – some are easier to implement than others – however, they all lead to a happy state of being! This is the only life I have – it’s not a dress rehearsal – so it is important for me to live each day to its fullest. When you get to my (baby-boomer) stage of life, you realize it is all about the little things.
Know What I Want!
Each morning, I practice the habit of identifying what I want the day to look like and to feel like. I take charge! When my children were teen-agers, it would drive me nuts when their answer to just about every question was: “whatever’! I consciously, and constantly, decide the direction of my days and, therefore my life. “If it’s to be, it’s up to me’ (one of my favorite quotes by Lou Tice). I decide what I want for breakfast, what I will complete on my ‘to do’ list, how I will relax in the evening and so on.
Ask for What I Want!
As a woman, this was a big life lesson for me. I have always been very generous in giving, in doing and in ‘being there’ for others. Now, since I am very clear on what I want in my life, it’s become very easy for me to ask for what I want. I realize that I had been very selfish, in the past, to NOT allow others to help me in the way I had been so avid about wanting to help them. It’s a different way of thinking. Most people want to help. Let them! Then they, too, can experience the joy of giving.
Eliminate Toxic People From My Life
Wow! This is a BIG one! Some people aren’t good for me. I make it a habit to surround myself only with happy, loving, positive-thinking people. Now, you may think that’s impossible to do. No, it’s not! How important is your mental health and well being? I’ve been ‘on the other side’ – and allowed toxic people to suck the life out of me. No more! I surround myself with love and my energy, because of that, is at an all time high – it’s a great happiness habit!
Control my Self-Talk to Be Positive and UP-lifting!
Happiness is a mindset. It is contingent on how I speak to myself – my self talk. In the past, if I had friends who spoke to me the way I spoke to me, they wouldn’t be friends for very long. I’ve learned to turn my self-talk around and keep it positive and uplifting at all times! When you change your self-talk, you change performance. I have a very happy life because of this.
Life doesn’t have to be difficult. We are so very serious these days. For me, it is essential to find at least one thing, each day, to be happy about – to laugh about – to smile about. I make a conscious effort to do this. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of flashing a big kiss to someone in the car next to me when I am stopped at a red light. I love watching the smiles I get in return!
Put My Life on a Want-to, Choose-to, Like-it, Love-it Basis
This is the most powerful happiness habit that I practice. My personal mission statement is to “come from truth”. In the past, as I mentioned above, I would always ‘be there’ for everyone – and, later, often, I would resent the commitment I made to do things or be places. I was busy. I was tired. I became resentful. Once I adopted this practice of only saying “YES” to the things that I really wanted to do, I eliminated all stress and tension from my body and mind. This was very freeing! I have been very happy, balanced, sincere and much more fun to live with!
While it is very important for me, for my happiness, to create each and every day the way that I want it to unfold (and I’m talking about those things over which I have control), it is also essential for me to end my day with a mindset of gratitude. I keep a Gratitude Journal and, at the end of each day – while enjoying my cup of peppermint tea – I write down 5 things for which I am grateful. That alone creates happy dreams for me because I live a blessed life!
Happiness is a mindset and a habit. The beauty of this is that we are in control of our thinking – and we have the power to live a happy life – one habit at a time! Go for it. You’ll be happy you did!