Today is the Day
How many days do we wake up
and say “today is the day I am going to …..start a diet, stop drinking, stop
smoking,” getting out of bed with the best resolve, we start on a mission, but
by 11am the cravings, or the little voice in the head is saying just one
cigarette or a biscuit won’t hurt. But
with great willpower some of us get over this hurdle and get to lunchtime,
meeting friends it is hard not to indulge in a glass or two of vino, so our
resolve weakens and we say to ourselves, never mind I will start tomorrow!!
Then when tomorrow comes we go through the same or similar routine; until our
promises to ourselves don’t come to mean much to us, they don’t have much value
and we don’t mind breaking them.
Breaking our promises to ourselves also reinforces our self worth belief, it is ok to let yourself down, and it does not matter. Would we treat other people this way, or accept other people treating us like this??? Usually the answer is no, so we will put ourselves out for others, before ourselves!! How worrying is that and what lessons are we teaching the children???
It takes many of us half a lifetime to learn to value yourself as a person, believe that we are worthy of self praise, without being big headed and a bore. We are very quick to tell ourselves how bad we have been, or how stupid we are, but we are not so prompt to say “yes I did that well” or “hey, how good was I there, well done” If we are waiting for others to compliment us or pat us on the back, often we will wait a long time, so self praise is a good motivational tool when you want to achieve things. Change will only come around us when we change the way we are, things will get better when we get better.
Change for most people is frightening and often we feel as if we don’t have the control over the situation, but we do have choices; if we get out of bed thinking that this is going to be a hard and difficult day, it will be, if we get up expecting it to be good, it will be. Any challenges that come along can be dealt with, but the negative spiral is as strong as the positive one, making the choice of which way you are going is up to you.
Learning to tie a shoe lace, or ride a bike, we start with a trike, then a two wheeler with stabilizers, then just the two wheels, but once you have learnt you never quite forget. Learning to drive a car is like a Rite of Passage into the adult world (for some of us it takes a bit longer than others!). These are all changes that we have gone through, achieved and lived to tell the tale, though at the time they seemed huge challenges. Every other challenge that comes along is just the same, keeping your word to yourself, and keeping your promises to you; make you feel stronger and more in control. Then you can make and keep promises to others. That is where change and progress is really seen and felt by you and all around you, the more you do, the more you keep, the more you achieve and the more you will want to do.
We have no guarantees of a tomorrow, so what changes do you need to make today?