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Husbands and Wives! Head Out of Sand! NOW!!!

Guest post by: John R. Wilson, Sr.

Article Overview: Our nation is at a critical juncture. The numbers of unemployed and under-employed are staggering. Don't continue to assume a new job or career is around the corner. You have a problem to solve, your financial security. Here's some thoughts on the quality of your future.

Husbands and Wives! Head Out of Sand! NOW!!!

A few facts:

• It will take until 2021 for Michigan to gain back the 480,000 jobs it has lost
• It will take until 2017 for North Carolina to gain back the 178,000 jobs it has lost
• Colorado has gained 11,000 jobs this year but is still 110,000 down from pre-2008 levels
• On average, California has lost 16,000 jobs each month since January 2008...add that up (and it doesn't even include the over 58,000 jobs statewide they've lost in government!)
• Ohio has lost 400,000 jobs and is not likely to EVER gain even half of them back! Ohio is only #9 amongst the states in job loss!

This is just 5 stories. I chose them randomly. There are 50 states! Guess what? Each has a significant urban/suburban population, somewhere within it's boundaries that have lost jobs for a very very long time and for some it will be forever! The farmlands of the USA are no better.

Why do I point this out in a Life Coaching and Franchise Consulting business forum? Because so many husband/wife teams are stuck and stymied, doing nothing and hoping against hope because one, or both partners aren't dealing with reality. Month after month there is no job, there are no prospects and their nest egg is running out.

But one of the partners (and often both) can't see that a new way of approaching the issue of creating earnings needs to be considered. One of you refuses to look at anything but the old ways that worked in the old days. And one of you is working against the other.

Husbands and wives come together! Get on this! You have a problem to solve. It is a problem of financial security and fiscal responsibility to your family!...Generally speaking, "a job as the likely solution?" It is as likely as winning the LOTTO. What possesses you to believe that your financial need will be solved by some unknown employer?

Virgil the poet/philosopher said, "Fortune sides with him who dares." And, that is what most wives think business ownership, and having their spouse pursuing their entrepreneurial desire is; nothing more than a dare

The fact is it's the opposite!

Pursuing a job search, month and month and for some now YEAR AFTER YEAR has no good end. Moreover, should you find the job, then what? Is it secure? Are your problems solved? Does it secure your future? How many of you are now on the 3rd, 4th and 5th job search? Oh sure, at one time, you worked for someone for 7 years, 10 years, 15 or 20 years...and then it was gone...you were downsized, rightsized, part of a paring of the middle and upper management fiscal labor fat. You lost your financial security. The company no longer valued your loyalty.

Perhaps after this first stunner you found a second job. How long did it last? Are you on your second job search; your third, ... fourth? The typical executive, who has been in the employment pool in America for over 20 years is on their third and fourth jobs. The first one (in their career rotation) lasted 12 years. The second one 4 years and the last one less than 18 months!I am not suggesting business ownership is for everyone. It's not. That is why Cindy and I do what we do. We help you, as a couple discover what direction is right for you...as a couple. It's our calling. We have worked together for over 35 years...we have counseled couples and marrieds to better understand one another from a perspective of goals, passions, personality and purpose. We'd love to work together with you and your spouse to best understand how it is you fit best so that, together, you truly are a source of energetic support and encouragement for one another and so that, together, you find out how best to solve your fiscal issues as well...

Give us a shout...this whole job problem is not going to go away. You desire to provide security for your family. Let us help.

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