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Empowerment, keep your power.

Written by: Samantha Cook

Article Overview: How women keep their power in business and life.

Empowerment, keep your power.

After a tough time in my life when I felt that I lost control of my power, I was in debt, broken and bruised by the world. Or so I thought. Then I see the stories of women who have gone through so much more. Take for example, Georgene, a breast cancer fighter and one of my closest friends. Georgene has had to fight cancer twice in her short 32 year life. The first was Thyroid cancer that she ended up losing her thyroid and now must take a prescription on a daily basis to keep her body running, for the rest of her life. Then a year and a half after much fighting with doctors to get a lump checked in her breast through biopsy. Even with the doctors telling her in their 30 years of practice they have never seen this type of lump be cancerous, she fought and fought to get the test. Turns out she was right, it was cancer in fact an extremely aggressive form of cancer that in the short span of 2 months while getting scheduled for chemotherapy increased in size by almost double. While most people would have had a breakdown and "thrown in the towel", she has moved on in her life. “This cancer doesn’t define who I am. I’m not going to live like I’m sick,” Georgene says. “I’m not breast cancer, and I hate pink.” Since I have known her she has never been a fan of pink. Through her strength of positive thinking and knowledge that no matter what is standing in her way; cancer, doctors, or treatments she was going to fight and still live her life. She is the keeper of her power against all odds.

So how is it to stay "powerful" during hard times? It can only come from within us. No one and nothing can take it away from us. Empowerment comes from inside of us through choosing love over fear. In most cases we lose our power because we are scared of the reactions of others if we behave / say / or did what we wanted and thought was right. How many times in your life have we known another women or ourselves to put your family before herself in all cases to a point of exhaustion and loathing? Worried that if you take some time for yourself the family will fall apart. How many times have we known someone to stay in a job that is not a match to our moral fiber? Everyday is worse than the last because we are afraid of what will happen if we empower ourselves to follow our internal desires and let go of the fear that is holding us back.

Doing what is right is not easy. Suzy Orman, also known as "The Money Lady", has a 3 step approach to her gatekeeper of money. I believe that this gatekeeper transcends money to everyday life. 1. Is it kind to you, 2. Is it necessary to you, 3. Is it true to you. This is not about being selfish, it is about enabling others and depleting your power. I wish I had this information when I had a gambling boyfriend (past tense). I did not ask myself these questions and thus made the situation far worse, because I was afraid. Afraid of what would happen to him, me and us if I did not provide the financial bail out. I choose out of fear instead of out of love. Bailing him out was only making his issues easier to deal with and thus enabled him to continue the cycle.

People who believe that violence is power or war is needed for peace are sadly mistaken. Ask yourself, are you holding on to dis-empowering fear in your life or are you embracing compassionate love that enables you with life affirming power. Chose the later and you will find you are a powerful women.

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