All I Want To Do Is Spell Your Name Correctly
All I Want To Do Is Spell Your Name Correctly. I don’t know about you, but perhaps there are some that only connect with their race or religion when they join a social network, or they may exclude some or someone that they don’t want to connect with. Not a problem for me. I grew up in mixed neighborhoods of Boston and am a world traveler by most standards, logged in over 38 states of the US and 55 foreign countries. Never had a problem getting breakfast or a drink; a warm, friendly smile and a handshake goes a long way to solving cultural differences.
Online, I am the author of the Internet Users Handbook and founder of several Internet Scams Anonymous Groups with a membership pushing 50,000 members. To expand our network, I search for new or existing networks to join and help promote our scam avoidance message. Our membership certainly covers countries that I have never been to or ever will see in person. Over the years I have become acutely aware of how many different ways some common names can be spelled and I try to make sure that I capture the differences when communicating with a new member.
I connect with everyone that I can find, and welcome all connection requests, because my message is for everyone online. I only disconnect with the spammers that have no social agenda except to spam us. Those with English language issues; I have always recommended that they form or seek out groups where they can communicate in their native tongue. Often, we have no idea who the new member is, because they either do not post a picture or they post something other than their own picture.
I have led you to this point about spelling names correctly and my neutrality about race and religion. However, the following incident will share some new light and hopefully a lesson for us when I say ‘There is No Room for Social Racism in social networking” or perhaps “Why limit your customer base due to own bigotry”
Frankly, I even hesitate to bring this up, but I was completely caught off guard by the following exchange online!
Some many months ago, I joined a network, where my first welcome was from an old acquaintance, I vaguely remember from another network, He did not have a picture, but claimed to be high-ranking on this particular network.His welcome went like this
welcome to ... but... hmmm
I told you about “xxx” when I first Joined.... You turned me down; Why are you here now?
I have to ask this Dr. Don ---- Did you treat me as if I didn’t know this was a good Opportunity, because I am black? (
Race seems to be a real issues still, and it's sad to see it; People like you, who are White, seem to disregard what other Black people are doing;
I'm glad to see you here, but I cannot pretend to be bothered by the fact that several times now, I have shared something with you, you've refused to look at it; and then I see you using it later (through someone else)
So I'd like to know - Is it because I'm black?
End of his welcome
Goodness, I had never seen anything like this from anyone. I was completed unprepared for such remarks. How unprofessional, I thought, especially from one that claims to be professional.
Some are very successful online; others are looking for a job or a way to pay their bills. They come from nearly all nations, cultures, religions and creeds. Never once, has it crossed my mind, who what where and/or color! All were welcome until they wore out their welcome, you know the spammers who never did understand that social networking was all building relationships, helping others, etc.
It is like broad brushing a country and its citizens as all scammers and spammers. Take for example our Nigerian friends that are black, from a country notorious for their Nigerian Scams. Should we discriminate again them because of they are black or from Nigeria, of course not.
At least from my desk and purpose online, all who come are welcome, and most need our help
My two responses to him, for what it is worth follows for your consideration:
Thought I recognized your name
First of All, I don’t care what color you are, and no I did not (know) you were black … (No Picture) … I don’t pick friends by color. I grew up in the slums, my friends were black, Puerto Rican, Italians, nearly every race every color, so don’t bother about color with me
Second, as I recall this was some time ago. At the time I was busy re-writing my Internet Users Handbookand at the same time I was play nurse maid (following their plan of site development, features, etc.) a new site called “xxx” that being put together by a friend and his partners in another social networking business
I referred him to your link, even though I wasn’t a member, because while they were developing their site, they might have learned something about this site.
I welcome you as a black friend or whatever kind of friend you want to be, or how about this my first friend on “xxx”
I have kicking tires for 73 years, I could care less about color; I only care about professionalism
Funny thing about discrimination, (if anything) if I discriminate it is as follows: two members present me with the same offer, one is a free member and the other is upgraded. I will (probably) buy from the upgraded member that has committed him or herself to the program. I am a very busy man, my friend and can only do so much at a time
hmmm, no reply?
Hello Dr. Don; it's ...... here in ……. - Most of the time I read responses to my emails on my phone; and respond when I log in; However, Friday and Saturday I do trainings with my personally sponsored business partners.
We both know that when I presented ….. to you, I was a Paying Member of the other site. For you to suggest I wasn't, shows me that you are in fact, a racist who's trying to find a reason to justify his actions.
It's sad to see Small minded people like you, who don't make much money in our industry, because you're Hung up on race; but I can truly say, the one missing out on the abundant blessings of Life, are the racists themselves. I feel sorry for you Dr. Don; You cannot be an Expert, when you do not realize that all Races bring value to the table.
I'll be disconnecting from you now - take care.
Wow, and mine
You got me there; I have no idea what you are talking about. I don't know what other site you are referring to - paid or unpaid, I don't see a comment from me to that regard, unless you are tying yourself to my second comment which had nothing to do with you
As to your personal assessment and assassination of me, it is indeed sad for you have surely misjudged me, apparently just because I didn't join this program a year ago under you when I was busy with another.
Incredible, for sure one of us is hung up on race.
Perhaps you didn't read this part of my response to your welcome. “Thought I recognized your name”
We all come from different backgrounds and circumstances, good and bad, I gladly put my successes up against most others from the same or similar circumstance and Thank God at age73,I continue to serve
My friends know me for what I am. Some of the testimonials on my site will aid you in your thinking
All are welcome to connect with me, and I will help where I can
Thank you friend and future friends for your time
BTW, I am married to a non-white and have a beautiful daughter
End of reply
There you go my friends, Racism has no place in social networking; however, you can freely pick and choose your friends. All I Want To Do Is Spell Your Name Correctly
Thanks for reading