Questions guide you in all that you do. Some questions you ask to yourself; some to others. You walk into a room and think or ask, "What's going on here?" You hear the telephone ring and wonder, "Who's that?" You see a friend and ask, usually quite automatically, "How are you?"
Not every question has a question mark at the end. For example, "I wonder if I'll have trouble falling to sleep tonight." Or, "Let's see if there are any fresh vegetables that look good at the supermarket today." These are examples of rather neutral questions, that is, those that aren't empowering or disempowering. They simply guide you in your observations.
Questions You Ask Naturally You may want to take a few moments to consider what questions lead you through a day. What do you ask when you awaken in the morning? ......when you see a friend? .......when you get into your car? .......when you hear the door bell? .......when you pick up your mail? ........when you fall asleep at night?
As you become aware of your natural questions, you may find that they are helpful or unhelpful; empowering or disempowering; clear or confusing. Some may lead you to the responses or answers that you truly desire, some may evade the true issues.
Internal Messages Questions and other internal messages guide your observations. Some of these messages may be easy to hear because they're audible and part of your conscious awareness. Others may be conscious but still inaudible. Still others may be inaudible and unconscious.
Your questions and inner messages accumulate at various levels of your consciousness. Some are deeply embedded and insidious. Many are disempowering. Some may have been empowering at a particular stage of your development, but now are disempowering.
Your internal messages have many possible sources. They can originate in childhood, first heard said by an adult. They can be embedded from a perception of an early experience, even a rather undramatic experience. Internal messages are beliefs you hold about yourself and the outer world, regardless of the original influence.
Since some internal messages are inaudible or unconscious, they can be tricky to uncover. It's important to bring to the surface the ones that operate your life so that you can decide what to do with them. If the internal messages are empowering, energize them. If they're disempowering, neutralize them and/or replace them.
What is the Question?
Individuals in pain or confusion often ask, "What have I done wrong?" Many years ago, I stepped into a trap by answering this question when a client asked me. Now I know that all that's wrong is the question!
The question "What have I done wrong?" returns disempowering responses. Even answering "Nothing" is unsatisfactory. If you're tempted to ask this question, stop and ask another. If someone asks you this question, you can help the person more by suggesting an empowering question rather than answering this disempowering one.
Alternative questions lead to more useful insights.
The question "What is the question?" is often the perfect question! Alternatives are, "What is the most empowering question I can ask right now?" Or, "What question can I ask to move us (me, you) where we (I, you) desire to be?"
Empowering Questions for a Mess Here are empowering questions you can ask when you find yourself in a mess. Or vary the questions to assist others in asking for more meaningful information:
* What can I learn from this?
* How have I benefited from this so far?
* Who else has benefited from this?
* What conditions allowed this situation?
And then:
* Am I ready for a different situation?
* What do I want to bring into my life?
* What can I do now to change this?
Such questions as these are far more uplifting and encouraging than "Who did what?" Or, "How did I get into this mess?" Or, "Why did this happen?" Of course, there may be times you must ask and answer questions such as these, but they tend to blame rather than empower. It's helpful to distinguish between empowering and disempowering questions.
Marshall Transformation Model A set of empowering questions comes from the Marshall Model for Transforming Energy.
* Where is your (or the) attention?
* How is your (or the) energy?
* What are your (or the) unknowns?
Open to A Process for Empowerment One of the best ways to acquaint yourself with your internal messages is to explore them in a relaxed state. You can do this as part of a meditation or visualization or journaling session.
You'll find the process that follows particularly revealing if you focus on a specific situation in your life so that you have a context for the messages. If your focus is on a difficult situation, it will be even more helpful. For example, you may consider a misunderstanding with your partner, or a job promotion you didn't get, or a physical ailment.
Example 1. You may choose to explore a career-related situation through artwork. As you're drawing, notice the drawing and your feelings. Listen for additional messages that may come through your expression on paper. Ask yourself empowering questions that lead to a deeper understanding of the exercise.
Example 2. You may choose to meditate, asking for a vision about you and another person. You sit quietly, occasionally aware of this person's essence, but with no particular thoughts or expectations. Let images come into your awareness. Feel the feelings and allow insights to come to you.
The Process: Inner to Outer to Integrated 1. Identify a real situation that's troublesome, confusing, enraging, or otherwise relevant for exploration. This provides the context.
2. Select a method for gaining inner information: guided imagery, journaling, art expression, meditation. Your chosen method may be a regular part of your spiritual or personal growth practice or it may be unfamiliar to you.
3. Use the context of the selected situation to bring into your awareness the messages that are operating at a level that is deeper than your usual awareness.
4. Express those messages in some way. Your methods might include journaling, singing, drawing, painting, laughing, crying, dancing, writing a letter which you may or may not send.
5. Listen deeply to the meaning. Explore. Play. Experiment. As you identify the messages and images that are operating in you, select the ones you want to keep. Erase the ones that are disempowering, replacing them with the empowering messages you want. Relax and integrate the new messages into your life. You can make a conscious choice to live by thinking empowering thoughts.
6. Repeat the exercise as often as you desire. To complete the process, re-live or re-visit the selected situation with the empowering message. You're likely to find that your relationship to this situation has changed. If not, you may need to repeat the process or find another method to explore the situation.
Everyday Empowering Questions Here are some of my favorite empowering questions that can aid in transforming disempowering questions. You may want to select the ones that resonate for you and write them on a card for your wallet or mirror or car.
* What excites me about today?
* What do I want?
* How do I feel?
* How can I share my gifts now?
* What can I learn here?
* How can I realize more meaning in my life?
* What is worthy of my attention?
* Who can I connect with here?
* What can I contribute to this situation?
* What can I give today?
* ...and what else?
*What's funny about this?
* What am I grateful for?
* What brings me joy in that experience?
* How did I make a difference today?
* How can I leave this place more beautiful than I found it?
* Can I laugh now?
* What is my Truth about this issue?
* What's next?
* What now?
* What is the question?
* How can I/we be empowered?
* Am I ready to receive the gifts of the Universe?
* How does God see this?
* Who am I?
What is your favorite empowering question? Perhaps you have several favorite questions. Or favorites for certain situations. All yourself to be more aware of the questions you are asking, and make them as empowering as possible.
Copyright © 1991, 2006 Marshall House, www.mhmail.com. Jeanie Marshall, Empowerment Consultant and Coach with Marshall House writes extensively on subjects related to personal development and empowerment. Discover her guided meditations at the Voice of Jeanie Marshall, www.jmvoice.com
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