Affirming Others Builds Trust and Motivation
Affirming Others Builds Trust and Motivation
If you’re like me, I’m conscious that I don’t regularly express the specific gratitude I feel for these people as positive affirmations that will be of encouragement and benefit to them. I too often assume they know how much I appreciate them and fail to deliver meaningful affirmations in timely ways.
Positive affirmations are the things we say to others out of our of genuine gratitude that build them up and enhance their strength and sense of well-being. Positive affirmations empower others to risk and take chances and to be and do their very best. Negative thoughts run through people’s minds thousands of times a day. Making the giving of positive affirmations a daily practice gives you a powerful tool to strengthen the confidence of those you relate with at home and work. Here are some tips to help you help others be and do their best by affirming them and showing your appreciation and gratitude toward them.
GET OVER FEELING AWKWARD. Doing something new takes practice and because it is unfamiliar, giving affirmations to others might feel strange at first. Get over it! So often, it doesn't feel funny to talk negatively to people, but giving praise feels awkward. Just do it and don't worry if it feels strange. In time, you will feel less and less awkward as you experience the smile on the faces of others and their increased willingness to cooperate with you and be and do their best.
BEGIN YOUR AFFIRMATION WITH "YOU" AND A SMILE. The more you personalize what you say the more it will hit home and stick in the person’s mind and heart.
PUT YOUR AFFIRMATION IN THE PRESENT TENSE. Keeping the affirming statement timely and in the present will give it more power.
MAKE IT SHORT AND SWEET. Make the affirmation meaningful to the person. If affirmations are too long, you may find it cumbersome or difficult to share them on a regular basis. Longer affirmations work well during longer conversations.
PRACTICE. Teaching ourselves to speak well of others takes some practice. For most people the affirmative tongue it is an under developed muscle. Practice and your recognition of your gratitude toward others will help your affirming voice will become stronger.
HAVE A CLEAR VISION OF THE PERSON. Hold a clear vision of what is possible in terms of being and doing for the person as they become a part of your gratitude toward the person.
WRITE IT DOWN. Writing down the positive affirmations helps your mind remember the new statements. If you have lot’s of people you need to affirm, it might help to have a collection of 3X5 Affirmation Cards with a name and specific affirmations listed on each card for easy reference and review.
REPEAT THEM OFTEN. Repetition facilitates learning. The more often you say positive affirmations the more they become a part of a person’s worthwhile behavior.
MAKE THEM FUN. Enjoy yourself as you give affirmations to others. Laugh and exhibit a sense of lightness as you deliver affirmations to others.
REMEMBER TO BE GENTLE. The more you nourish and cherish others through affirmations the better able you will both live a life of joy and contentment. Be patient and loving as you help others accept and receive the affirmations you deliver to them. Sometimes it is hard for people to accept the “good stuff” about themselves because of a life of suffering too much criticism.
I urge you to use these principles to also affirm yourself! Self-affirmation is a tool for deterring the negative self-talk which can thwart your highest expression of character and competence and bring your critical emotional energy reserves to a dangerously low point.
Affirming Others Builds Trust and Motivation - To learn more about this author, visit Millard MacAdam's Website.
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Sincerely affirming others is like spreading gold coins as an investment in good will in the hands of a proactive leader. I’ve found that those leaders who consistently do it feel gratitude toward people… their family members, friends, staff members, business colleagues and customers.
If you’re like me, I’m conscious that I don’t regularly express the specific gratitude I feel for these people as positive affirmations that will be of encouragement and benefit to them. I too often assume they know how much I appreciate them and fail to deliver meaningful affirmations in timely ways.
Positive affirmations are the things we say to others out of our of genuine gratitude that build them up and enhance their strength and sense of well-being. Positive affirmations empower others to risk and take chances and to be and do their very best. Negative thoughts run through people’s minds thousands of times a day. Making the giving of positive affirmations a daily practice gives you a powerful tool to strengthen the confidence of those you relate with at home and work. Here are some tips to help you help others be and do their best by affirming them and showing your appreciation and gratitude toward them.
GET OVER FEELING AWKWARD. Doing something new takes practice and because it is unfamiliar, giving affirmations to others might feel strange at first. Get over it! So often, it doesn't feel funny to talk negatively to people, but giving praise feels awkward. Just do it and don't worry if it feels strange. In time, you will feel less and less awkward as you experience the smile on the faces of others and their increased willingness to cooperate with you and be and do their best.
BEGIN YOUR AFFIRMATION WITH "YOU" AND A SMILE. The more you personalize what you say the more it will hit home and stick in the person’s mind and heart.
PUT YOUR AFFIRMATION IN THE PRESENT TENSE. Keeping the affirming statement timely and in the present will give it more power.
MAKE IT SHORT AND SWEET. Make the affirmation meaningful to the person. If affirmations are too long, you may find it cumbersome or difficult to share them on a regular basis. Longer affirmations work well during longer conversations.
PRACTICE. Teaching ourselves to speak well of others takes some practice. For most people the affirmative tongue it is an under developed muscle. Practice and your recognition of your gratitude toward others will help your affirming voice will become stronger.
HAVE A CLEAR VISION OF THE PERSON. Hold a clear vision of what is possible in terms of being and doing for the person as they become a part of your gratitude toward the person.
WRITE IT DOWN. Writing down the positive affirmations helps your mind remember the new statements. If you have lot’s of people you need to affirm, it might help to have a collection of 3X5 Affirmation Cards with a name and specific affirmations listed on each card for easy reference and review.
REPEAT THEM OFTEN. Repetition facilitates learning. The more often you say positive affirmations the more they become a part of a person’s worthwhile behavior.
MAKE THEM FUN. Enjoy yourself as you give affirmations to others. Laugh and exhibit a sense of lightness as you deliver affirmations to others.
REMEMBER TO BE GENTLE. The more you nourish and cherish others through affirmations the better able you will both live a life of joy and contentment. Be patient and loving as you help others accept and receive the affirmations you deliver to them. Sometimes it is hard for people to accept the “good stuff” about themselves because of a life of suffering too much criticism.
I urge you to use these principles to also affirm yourself! Self-affirmation is a tool for deterring the negative self-talk which can thwart your highest expression of character and competence and bring your critical emotional energy reserves to a dangerously low point.
Affirming Others Builds Trust and Motivation - To learn more about this author, visit Millard MacAdam's Website.
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Dianne CramptonDianne Crampton is an executive leadership coach, team culture consultant, author and president of TIGERS Success Series, Inc. Dianne has been helping CEO's and Executives connect their employees to their core values and goals for over 20 years using the trademarked TIGERS team culture process, which stands for trust, interdependence, genuineness, empathy, risk and success. To download a free white paper on behaviors that build strong teams and behaviors that will predictably tear them down go here. Dianne's contribution to the 2010 Pfeiffer Consulting Journal (an imprint of John Wiley and Sons Publishers) entitled TIGERS Hearted Teams is available in November 2009. Her new book TIGERS Among Us: 5 Winning Business Team Cultures And Why, Three Creeks Publishing will release in March 2010. To receive publishing discounts, subscribe to the free TigerTracks Newsletter here. - Visit Dianne Crampton's Website |
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