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3 Ways to Recycle Conflict

Guest post by: Sylvia Lafair

Article Overview: Early identification of behavior patterns will help you maximize creativity and production while minimizing repeated behavior from co-workers.

3 Ways to Recycle Conflict



3 Ways to Recycle Conflict

Once you learn to observe behavior patterns, those annoying situations and people that press your buttons, and what to do about it you will take conflict by the shoulders and shake it out of your organization.

Wait! There's more!! That does not mean you will never have conflict again. It means you will not have to waste precious time going over the same old "he-said-she said-he said-they said" that eats up tons of time as well as creativity and collaboration.

In "Don't Bring it to Work" there are 13 behavior patterns that exist in every workplace on the planet. Knowing about them and then changing them to their positive opposite can make conflict your ally. The good news is you will then work smarter and faster throughout the day. Look at the following behavior patterns and find the one or two that make you cringe; those are the ones to pay attention to.

As you read this list write down the top two that you want to know more about: super achiever, rebel, procrastinator, clown, persecutor/bully, victim, rescuer, martyr, drama queen/king, pleaser, avoider, denier, splitter/pot stirrer.

Great! Now for the 3 ways to recycle conflict:

1. Observe yourself for one week and keep track of when the above pattern is played out at work. Check yourself in meetings, in hallway conversations, responding to annoying emails, talking on the phone when your buttons get pushed.

2. Understand where these patterns started. Take a few minutes for one week and begin to connect the dots of how today's annoying behavior is similar to how you handled situations in school, on a sports team, with your siblings, with neighbors.

3. Transform the patterns. Begin to take a big, long deep breath before you talk when you have had your buttons pushed. Walk away, get a drink of water, stare at the wall. This is a quick pattern interrupt so you can respond differently than in the knee jerk automatic reaction.

To tackle the button pushing moments takes time and diligence. Once, however, you have mastered this most important skill you will find yourself with time to take your entrepreneurial self to new heights at work. Want to go deeper? Send an email to sylvia@ceoptions.com and ask for the white paper on "conflict cool down to touchdown" and make your workday flow more smoothly.

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