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Risky Business: Put Your Own Needs First

Guest post by: Sylvia Lafair

Article Overview: "Realize you do not exist in this world primarily to serve others, but to serve yourself and make the most out of your life".

Risky Business: Put Your Own Needs First

I just finished an article that made me realize why we are having such a miserable time just getting through the day. We are living with Ebenezer Scrooge before he meets with Tiny Tim and begins to change. Here is what is being given to entrepreneurs on the path to success. "Realize you do not exist in this world primarily to serve others, but to serve yourself and make the most out of your life".

Okay, let's peel this back a bit. It is simply not reality but a big swig of narcissism. Don't be fooled by the idea that a healthy attitude is to put yourself first. In the long run it will destroy you and you will become a modern day version of old Scrooge. I doubt that is what you want.

Here is the skinny on where to put your needs......

First understand that we are born from a relationship between a male and a female, through a relationship between a mother and a baby, into a relationship with parents or care takers.

There is no other way to get to this planet than from the above arrangement.

Next, the quality of life depends upon how we master relationships, all relationship, at home, in the community, at work.

In "Don't Bring It to Work" there are the 13 most common behavior patterns that we learn as kids in our original organization, the family and take to our present work organization. You have acquired some of these patterns whether you were aware of them or not. It's just the way it is.

Now, if you have learned to put your own needs first, you most likely fall into the category of super achiever. That is someone who must be the best at all costs. Super achievers will step on or over anyone to get ahead.

If this is you, pay attention!!!! You will grow old and miserable no matter how much wealth you accumulate. You will not be happy. No, don't argue, you won't.

There is a fine line between thinking about yourself first and being a wimp who never can ask for anything, that is the pattern of the pleaser, or the martyr, or the victim.

Yes, it is good to think about yourself. However, you do exist in relationship with others so the word you want to learn is reciprocity ---give and get. The super achiever who can transform the "me, me, me" attitude to become a creative collaborator is a true winner.

Creative collaborators grow old and are joy filled. They may or may not have lots of martial wealth, yet they have something more, love and appreciation.

You want both? You can have both. Take the pattern aware quizon Sylvia Lafair's websiteand then give us a holler. We have helped tons of entrepreneurs get past old, out-moded patterns and find the best path of health, wealth, and joy. It's the better way to go.

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Article Tags: Collaborators, Patterns, Relationships, Super Achiever, Workplace Culture, Workplace Relationships



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