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What Successful People Avoid in Their Communication

Guest post by: Dr. Vincent Kituku

Article Overview: There are key, unbelievably overused sentences you must make efforts to consciously avoid in your communication, especially in these uncertain economic times. Check those who use these sentences frequently and chances are they are not on your list of the people you consider successful in any endeavor of life. I call them de-motivators and dream busters or responsibility deflectors. The moment you utter any of them, you surrender your desire for immediate action and “borrow” time to wallow in self pity-which is a dangerous move that will never bring either tangible or intangible results.

What Successful People Avoid in Their Communication

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." Dale Carnegie

There are key, unbelievably overused sentences you must make efforts to consciously avoid in your communication, especially in these uncertain economic times. Check those who use these sentences frequently and chances are they are not on your list of the people you consider successful in any endeavor of life.

I call them de-motivators and dream busters or responsibility deflectors. The moment you utter any of them, you surrender your desire for immediate action and "borrow" time to wallow in self pity-which is a dangerous move that will never bring either tangible or intangible results.

You probably have said them or heard them said by other people. But recall a time when you used one of the sentences and think of your actions thereafter. Or just look at your family members or colleagues who use those sentences as you evaluate their growth in key areas of life, including professional, personal or spiritual.

Here are some key sentences to avoid and the reality about them:

• "I am waiting for things to turn around." The reality is that things don't turn themselves around. Here is a lesson learned while grazing cows in Kangundo, Kenya. If you want milk, you don't wait for the cow, grazing some distance from where you are, to back up (reverse for King's English speakers) for you to milk it. You get up and go where the cow is.
• "I would want to...(fill the blank), BUT..." The reality is that BUT is so powerful it neutralizes the positive motive stated before it. The future largely depends on how many "BUTS" you use at the present. Take an innocent and simple sentence like, "I want to go to college," then follow that great statement with, "but I am too old." That BUT empowers your bones to crack and your mind to operate as if you are approaching your life's sunset.
• "It is not my responsibility to...(fill the blank)." That phrase demotes its speaker from a doer to a watcher, a spectator of life who avoids participating. Check those around you. Doers are the achievers. Think about the time you went somewhere requesting help and someone said, "I do not have a solution for your situation, however, let me check around." Even if that individual willing to do something can't help you, you know he/she took full responsibility to act on your need.
• "I can't do this anymore." The reality is, "Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not. Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated failures. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent." Calvin Coolidge

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