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Confidence Deficiency?

Guest post by: Yvonne Hart

Article Overview: How's your confidence level? Do you have those moments when your confidence flies out the window and you are overcome with a fear of your next move? Most of us experience this feeling at some time in our career. Here's a secret to managing that fear.

Confidence Deficiency?

How's your confidence level? When our confidence is low, we become indecisive people who get frustrated with life. Often when we are low in confidence, we try to be someone we are not. The problem with this is we inhibit that unique individual we were made to be. I find one of the major drains of our confidence is fear. Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed. To conduct ourselves in confidence, it's important to understand the nature of fear. Fear torments and prevents progress. It is a thief, which steals our destiny. Take a moment to think about your current problems. Fear can prompt you to attempt to manipulate others, or allow others to control you. One way to stop fear is to face it down, not allowing it to control you. The following story will illustrate.

Once there was a village where parents taught their children to never go to the top of the mountain. "It's where the monster lives." For generations, no one dared go to the top. However, one day a few youngsters decided to go see the monster. Halfway up, they heard a huge roar. Most ran away screaming.

The few brave enough to keep climbing noticed the monster was smaller than expected, even though it roared and had a terrible odor. A few more ran down the mountain. The one brave soul who decided to face the monster noticed it shrank, as he got closer even though it still roared fiercely. The brave villager came close enough to pick it up and hold it in the palm of his hand. He looked at it and said, "Well, then, who are you?" In a tiny high-pitched voice, the monster squeaked: "My name is Fear."

When we confront our fears, they become less significant. As you follow the purpose for your life, you will find one day the things which have frightened you were really nothing at all.

Confident people do not concentrate on their weaknesses; they develop and maximize their strengths. Are you blindsided by working so hard on your weaknesses, you aren't developing your strengths? One of my favorite areas in coaching is helping people identify their strengths. Once you've identified what you're good at, design your life around those strengths. Could it be that easy? You bet! I guarantee it will boost your confidence level to focus your life on what's right with you rather than concentrating on what's wrong with you.

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