How to use affirmations to find meaning and move faster 1(2)
Affirmations do not only create motivation, alignment and discipline. They can also create focus, speed and meaning to all actions in your life. Have you noticed that affirmations do not work like most self-help books say? It does not really help just sitting and thinking about something. It does not bring you closer to your result or becoming what you want to be. Let's discuss affirmations for a moment to try and understand what really makes them work. But before we start, let me share something that Gandhi said into this discussion: "Praying is not for the sick and the old."
Focused meditation, praying, visualizations and affirmations are according to my experience all part of the same concept. They are all helping us get ready to become what we want to become or get ready to achieve what we want to achieve. Be it a better person, parent or just lose some weight. And doing affirmations right demands our full attention. They make every fiber in our bodies want to become the affirmation.
1) Affirmations only work in the present
Most people say an affirmation in the future or conditional tense as opposed to present tense. The future tense is to say the affirmation like this: "I will..." or "I'm going to..."
It is putting something into place in the future. However the future never arrives. We only have the present moment.
"I'm going to be a top manager" will not work.
Instead you need to say, "I am a top manager." - and honestly feel it being the reality inside your whole mind and body. Remember what Gandhi said!
To say an affirmation in the conditional tense is to say: "I would like to..." or "I wish I could..."' It has the idea in it that something may or may not happen. Affirmations need to be definite, firm statements. Saying an affirmation in conditional tense isn't creating anything inside you except confusion and hesitation.
Saying "I hope I will be a better father this year" or "I wish I could lose weight" won't work. They are conditional; because when you hope for something it may or may not happen.
Affirmations need to be stated in what is called the "simple present". If not it will only give you a short boost of nice feeling in the moment and will not carry over to any action nor will it create any resolve when facing an obstacle or help focus your mind to do the necessary decisions and choices you will have to do every minute until you reach or become your achievement.
Saying affirmations in the simple present makes them stronger, much stronger than saying them any other way. Making you feel, taste, smell and completely experience the affirmation will prepare you to be what you eventually will become.
2) Repeat until you become what you want to be
Have you ever heard the expression, "fake it until you make it". Well this statement is an over-simplification on what I am discussing with you in this article. The distinction that we have to make is the following: An affirmation is true! If it is not true it is a dream that you are trying to achieve; something that you do not believe in. To believe in your affirmation or what you want to achieve is essential. I will never encourage anyone to chase dreams, we need to believe in our dreams and make sure we respect them as being real and a part of your person.
You will need to BE your achievement until you BECOME it.
To use the examples earlier:
I am doing all the great things a top manager do
I am doing all the things a great father does
I am relentlessly eating and doing only the things a person having my ideal weight is eating and doing
When you say and truly feel your affirmations in your body and mind, over and over again - The Principle of Dominant Thought will come into play. Whatever your dominant thought is, that is what you are moving towards. As one of my coaches once said: "We become good at what we do!"
Repetition is the mother of all learning. True, but let's not forget what can speed up a learning process - emotional involvement. If we like something we learn faster. If we connect a bad feeling with something we tend to learn to avoid those things quickly. Affirmations are creating an emotional involvement that makes us aware of what direction we are having or should have in the present. Affirmations make us face the right direction, do the right things and find the courage that brings us where we want to be. Making us achieve the things we want to achieve and making us be what we want to become, faster and with more passion.