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Living an extraordinary life
| Guest post by: Ruben Guzman |
Article Overview: All of life is either surviving or thriving. Whether it is a plant or animal or human, this is how life is. Question becomes, "how do we live an EXTRAORDINARY life?" In order to create this breakthrough, we must first examine the limits of the "ordinary" life. Then, it becomes possible to create a new dimension. We can also establish the tools for creating freedom, joy, happiness and love.
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Living an extraordinary life
Living an extraordinary life…
There are
basically only two ways for life to exist – in the state of survival, or in the
state of thriving. What is ordinary for most people is to be in survival. What
is extraordinary is to be thriving. The state that we are in is a direct result
of the paradigm, mindset or view that we have for ourselves, for we create our
own reality. In order to step into creating an extraordinary life, we must
first distinguish the ordinary way in which we view ourselves.
It’s not
bad or wrong to have an ordinary view of oneself. It’s just inherently limited.
The ordinary is given by our wants, desires, judgments, assessments,
expectations, attachments, obligations, opinions, cynicism, criticism,
skepticism, resignation, blame, shame and guilt. It’s what we commonly find all around us – in
the news, TV, talk shows… almost everywhere.
Inside the
domain of the ordinary, “love” exists as conditional, filled with obligations,
expectations and attachment. It is emotionally based. It is filled with “hopes” as well as fears.
The
underlying motivational force inside the domain of the ordinary is fear. Fear is what compels us to take action in
order to avoid pain, or at least what we think will cause pain or discomfort.
There are five major fears that drive us. The fear of rejection – for we all
want to belong. The fear of failure –
for we all want to succeed. The fear of
success – a subtle fear that can prevent us from succeeding because it might
alienate us from others. The fear of the
unknown – because we want to be sure we’ll succeed and be safe. The fear of being uncomfortable – we’d rather
stay in the same place, even if it doesn’t work, simply because it’s familiar
and comfortable, and taking a risk is not.
Inside
this domain, everything is given by our past, and the past that we have
misplaced in our future. Life becomes a
repetition of the same. It may get
marginally better for short periods of time.
However, it is fundamentally a vicious circle. Selections are based on
reasons and justifications, therefore making them decisions, not choices. There
is no power. Usually, there is the
experience of struggle or suffering.
Now that
we can see the domain of the ordinary, it is possible to examine the domain of
the extraordinary.
The domain
of the extraordinary is given by honoring one’s word, promises, commitments and
agreements. It is grounded in the
principles of gratitude, fulfillment, wholeness, inner riches, commitment,
love, trust, respect, contribution, resilience, faith, compassion, partnership,
generosity, responsibility, and integrity.
It is the domain of champions – the winners in all areas of life! And, it is rare.
Inside the
domain of the extraordinary, “love” exists as a powerful practice of accepting
others exactly the way they are, and granting them being for who they are. This powerful love has no sense of
obligation, attachment, or expectation.
This love is kind, respectful, accepting, compassionate, generous and
truly unconditional. Instead of “hope”,
this powerful love operates from accepting what’s so and powerfully dealing
with the present moment – not “someday, maybe…”
The
underlying motivational force in the domain of the extraordinary is powerful
love, which is the opposite of fear. It
emanates from a deep sense of gratitude for every situation, every person, and
for oneself.
Inside the
domain of the extraordinary, everything is given by the present moment, and the
commitment to creating a future that lives inside the extraordinary. The constraints of the past are relocated
back in the past where they belong, providing a freedom to create a new
reality, a new future. It is bold!
Selections are made freely, after consideration, and for no reason other than
it’s your choice. There is power and freedom.
Three keys
to creating this extraordinary life of freedom, joy, love and happiness:
1.
Powerfully
dealing with what’s so. Accepting the past as the past, living in the present,
and consciously creating the future.
2.
Being
a contribution. Getting outside of oneself and making a difference for others.
3.
Engaging
in ongoing growth and development. We are either thriving and growing, or
surviving and dying.
So, now
the choice is yours. You are free to
choose what type of life you want to live.
You are free to choose how you view yourself and which domain you will
operate in. You are always at
choice. Choose wisely.
Ruben J Guzman, MPH
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About the Author: Ruben Guzman RSS for Ruben's articles - Visit Ruben's website Ruben J. Guzman, M.P.H. coaches leaders and their organizations in leadership effectiveness and maximizing their energy, productivity and profitability. Working with Coach Ruben in his programs, leaders gain new effectiveness in communication and leadership capacity, and employees gain access to life-changing behaviors, increased energy, and improved physical, emotional and mental capacity to work. Organizations gain a workforce that is fully engaged, aligned with fulfilling their mission and vision. Coach Ruben is an award-winning speaker, trainer, transformational business coach and consultant. He has an extensive education and diverse background in business, leadership, sports and health. Having personally lost over 50 pounds of fat in 1995, he completely transformed his own health and fitness and has been fit ever since! Coach Ruben is committed to empowering business leaders in being healthy and balanced, as well as powerful in their leadership and communication. He is also committed to empowering entire organizations in being healthy, balanced and productive as a foundation for increased profitability. Click here to visit Ruben's website   Creating Breakthroughs in Business Metamorphosis Living an extraordinary life Five steps to making a Powerful Apology Four Levels of Coachability |
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