James Ladd Articles
WHAT IS YOUR LIFES PURPOSE - Click To Read Article
You climb out of bed every morning; take a shower, brush your teeth, get dressed, have some coffee, toast or cereal, pat the dog, hug the kids, kiss the wife (husband), not necessarily in that order and head out the door to where and to what?
No it is not a destination that I am talking about, it is a PURPOSE. Does your life have one?
TRYING TO STAY ALIVE JUST ONE MORE DAY - Click To Read Article
As some know and I do not often talk about it, I have had my own share of challenges over the last several years. In the fall of 2001, after being diagnosed with a lung infection that doctors were not able to eradicate with antibiotics because of an underlying chronic condition, I spent the better part of the next two years, my health slowly deteriorating as I gradually lost lung function. I was told early on that my only hope was a double lung transplant and without it, I would die!
THE VALUE OF A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT - Click To Read Article
I am sure that all of you who work in a corporate environment are familiar with your corporate mission statement? It is the one that typically hangs in the front reception area or perhaps on the wall in the boardroom.
But do you have a personal mission statement and/or understand in a meaningful way what your purpose for living actually is?
THE MASTERY OF HARDSHIPS - Click To Read Article
"Life is Difficult, and when we come to accept that life is difficult, it no longer seems so!" (Scott Peck)
It is a bit of a paradox but true happiness, as in intrinsic, in fact is a resulting symptom of a life well spent in solving problems and overcoming hardships.
STRATEGIC MANAGEMENT OF STRESS - Click To Read Article
Many years ago and much earlier in my career I was Manager of the Employee Assistance Program for the Province of Manitoba.
Back in those early days I was confronted with a dilemma in assessing the nature of some presenting problems, which in the end was to change my approach and interest in the way I understood stress and the way in which I was to help support persons who were experiencing the symptoms of stress for the next 35 years.
When the cause of a stress symptoms jumps up and hits you in the face like a 2-by-4, (i.e. loss of a loved one) you know what you are dealing with and accordingly, can act to address it. But what if it relates to not living your life congruently with what it is you value, and/or not living your life according to your personality type and finally, perhaps not being able to meet your perceived needs?
REINVENTING YOURSELF - Click To Read Article
Recently and again, I had an opportunity to visit with Geoff Currier on The Nighthawk, CJOB’s evening show. Geoff asked me to join him in a discussion of how some people manage to re-invent themselves and he used the example of Frank McCourt the author of Angela’s Ashes to start things off.
As a Life & Business Coach my work with clients is all about reinvention but perhaps not in the way you may think.
PRICE OF LEADERSHIP - Click To Read Article
We all know that the world is starving for individuals who are prepared to step up and lead us. Men and women who are capable of rising above the mediocrity and narrow mindedness that seems so pervasive in the world, men and women who possess the strength of character, the vision, charisma, passion and energy to take us all to a better place.
Much has been written and will be written still about leadership; what it is, where to find it, who can lead, even how to grow it. But you do not often read about or even witness the incredible cost that leaders often have to pay for their willingness to lead.
NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS (Don't Do It) - Click To Read Article
DON'T DO IT! At least don't do it now. Why do what, for the most part is expected as a part of the New Year's paranoia. What is this obsession anyway with making resolutions as a part of welcoming in the New Year?
NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS REVISITED - Click To Read Article
The number one reason, and why most are unsuccessful in keeping their New Year's Resolutions, is because they do not know themselves well enough nor understand why they operate in the world in the way in which they do...so success in either eliminating a negative behaviour
or acquiring a positive one is very elusive.
NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS IN SEPTEMBER - Click To Read Article
Forget about New Years Resolutions in January, they don’t work! You’re wasting your time! September is the best time to set New Year’s Resolutions.
Crazy idea, perhaps you disagree? Then answer this question; “why is it that most people who make them and seem quite serious about it, never really follow through and keep them?” A very good question don’t you think. I have addressed this issue before but on both occasions it was in January. Maybe now is a better time to take a different tact and initiate some thought, discussion and/or action around the idea.
MOST OF US REMAIN STRANGERS - Click To Read Article
Leo Buscaglia has been quoted as saying; "Most of us remain strangers to ourselves, hiding who we are, and ask other strangers, hiding who they are, to love us." Unfortunately, there is an incredible amount of truth in this statement. One thing that my life of experiences has taught me is that the likelihood of finding a deep and meaningful love relationship is directly proportional to the amount of time and effort I have spent in getting to truly know and accept myself.
MONEY, HEALTH AND HAPPINESS - Click To Read Article
If at this particular time in your life the accumulation of wealth is high on your priority list and you are spending the better part of your waking hours pursuing the almighty dollar, then perhaps you will be interested in a study that recently came out of the University of London.
The University has created the financial equivalent for life's pains and pleasures. It has made some surprising and fascinating finding!
LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE LIVING SOMEONE ELSE'S DREAM - Click To Read Article
Are you working for someone else's dream when you have one of your own? For years I did and didn’t like it. In fact it made me crazy sometimes, I even thought myself a coward for not acting!
LIFE IS DIFFICULT - Click To Read Article
In Scott Peck’s remarkable book; “The Road Less Traveled,” first published in 1978, he opens with the now famous line; “Life is difficult.” He then goes on to say; “this is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult --- once we truly understand and accept it --- then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
LIVING A PURPOSEFUL LIFE - Click To Read Article
As a personal coach I am surprised and still taken aback by how often I encounter people who regardless of their age, station in life; their position, the power they wield, influence and money they possess, are not in touch with the very essence of who they are and by extension the purpose or meaning of their lives, or to put it more succinctly the very essential reason for their existence.
LEAN INTO YOUR DISCOMFORT - Click To Read Article
I must admit that learning to lean into my discomfort has had a very positive effect in my life!
It was a process over time but the value of being able and willing to do it, was magnified 10 fold during my two year battle to survive my deteriorating lungs, followed by another two year journey back from the edge of death to good health, after surviving a 13 hour double lung transplant operation.
My new lungs came from a 40 year old man who lost his life in a car accident when he was killed by a drunk driver. His incredible gifts saved the lives of four people. I know about discomfort!
ITS EXHAUSTING RUNNING FROM THE PAST - Click To Read Article
It is said that we are pretty much formed very early in our lives by our “first family” experiences. The way we are socialized; that is simply, how we are taught to see and behave in the world by our parents in relationship to them, our siblings and the community in general, plays the most significant role in our formation leading into adulthood. Yes, we have to acknowledge genetics to some extent playing a role here, so I will do that. But this is not an argument about one or the other. I want to write here about dealing with our pasts’.
IT'S ABOUT PROCESS NOT OUTCOMES OR WHAT FOOTBALL TAUGHT ME - Click To Read Article
Two of the greatest life lessons I ever learned believe it or not came early in my amateur football coaching career. They were to have a profound effect on my philosophy of life thereafter.
So, if you can bear with me and allow my propensity to perhaps over-romanticize my 25 years as a football coach, I promise there is a lesson(s) here. You don't even have to like the sport!
FOR THE WANT OF A NAIL - Click To Read Article
For the want of a nail is a great old rhyme that communicates a very powerful message about how to ensure success in doing what is important to us.
EVERYTHING THATS BEAUTIFUL IS CRACKED THATS HOW THE LIGHT GETS IN - Click To Read Article
Leonard Cohen is credited with the above statement. I believe that he has captured the essence of beauty. Beauty is in the nature of our flaws. It is in our reflective self-awareness and acceptance of our imperfections that we discover our true beauty.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - Click To Read Article
Emotional Intelligence is the number one predictor of professional success and personal excellence!
Only part of our success in life can be attributed to intelligence. Other qualities: trust, integrity, authenticity, creativity, honesty, presence and resilience, are at least as important. These 'other intelligences' are collectively described as Emotional Intelligence.
Unlike intelligence, the good news is that EQ can be learned or developed; it's not something you are stuck with. We can develop in ways that can improve our relationships, our workplaces, our parenting, and our classrooms.
We could turn society on its ear if we learned to recognize our emotions and control our reactions; if we combined our thinking with our feelings; if we learned to channel our flow of feelings into creative expression, an expression of love.
CONGRUENCE AND TENSION - Click To Read Article
Many years ago and much earlier in my career I was Manager of the Employee Assistance Program for the Province of Manitoba. Back in those early days I was confronted with a dilemma in assessing the nature of some presenting problems, which in the end was to change my approach and interest in the way I understood stress and the way in which I was to help support persons who were experiencing the symptoms of stress.
"What do you suppose would be the consequences of not living your life according to what it is you value or not being able to fulfill your perceived needs?"
CANADA IS A COUNTRY OF MEDIOCRITY - Click To Read Article
Having been closely watching the American presidential race with a great deal of interest, and have to say being fascinated even enthralled by a number of the speeches, I recalled having read an article in the newspaper last year quoting a study or report that concluded Canada was a “country of mediocrity.” It stated that we are not particularly innovative, creative or willing to step up and take risks to move our society forward and become more of a leader in the world.
Just what is really being talked about here?
BOYS TO MEN - Click To Read Article
When Does a Boy Truly Become a Man?
No, I have not gone off the rails, nor am I losing my mind; this is not about “boy bands,” although after all these years I must confess that I really, really liked them. This is just a few of my thoughts on becoming a man.
Let me start by saying that I think the question of becoming a man is really a values question. Let me explain.
A BALANCED LIFE - Click To Read Article
Our lives are at the very least complicated and at times very difficult. The pace and the demands of living make it extremely difficult to keep things in there proper perspective.
When that becomes a concern for us it is helpful to think of our lives as being dimensional in nature, affording us an opportunity to create a more strategic approach to maintaining good health.
Keeping the four dimensions of self; physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual in balance with the dimensions of life is the one challenge in our lives that we all share in common.
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