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What If You Stopped Trying So Hard?
Written by: Curt SkeneArticle Overview: Sometimes its better to stop trying so hard because nature has a funny way of simply taking over!!
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What If You Stopped Trying So Hard?
The Law of Reversed Effect is very simple, it states the harder you try to force something the more difficult it becomes to do. Simply put... you can't force natural progression just because you want to.
For example, how many times have you tried to force a relationship only to find the other party starts to drift away? How many athletes have tried to force themselves back to greatness only to find they get worse? How many times have you tried to find something only to have someone else walk in and find it right away? My point is trying too hard often has the opposite effect.
I was reminded of this law recently when a good friend (and client) landed their dream job. They were dedicated, diligent and trying very hard with no success. Oddly enough this opportunity came out of the blue the moment they stopped trying to look for it. It may not make any sense but trust me the law of reversed effect is at work everyday.
So are there areas in your life where you are trying too hard? Are there areas in your business where you are trying to force the natural progression of a situation? Are you trying to force something and notice that it's drifting further away? Here's my advice, first... get very clear of what you want and why you want it and lock that vision deep in your subconscious, second... take a deep breath, third... step back and focus your attention on something else, forth... BOOM my bet.. there it is!
I know I can't force myself to write, I have to be inspired by something. When I do try to force it, look out writers block here I come! So I step back, take a walk, play with the kids or go to sleep then I come back (sometimes at very weird hours) and voila it's all good now.
I will admit it can be scary to step away because thoughts of "what if I miss it" can fill your mind. But remember the old adage "If you love something set it free, if it comes back it's yours and if it doesn't, it never was!"
So this month I want you to take a giant leap and just stop trying to make something happen. That doesn't mean stop doing the "right" things, it means stop doing things just to try to force the natural flow of how the world is about to unfold. If you are trying to land a new job or big contract continue to plant seeds but at the same time have the confidence to step back and open yourself up to other opportunities that you may not have considered yet.
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About the Author: Curt Skene RSS for Curt's articles - Visit Curt's website  Curt Skene is a two time world award winner at Microsoft and Executrain. He is also a certified hypnotist and uses his understanding of the mind to help clients perform better. Clients who hire Curt Skene if you want to stand out, be noticed and succeed! Success in Business (and in Life) requires the mastery of two things... Knowledge and Attitude. In Curt's sales keynote he provides a perfect blend "know how" and "know why" to get everyone thinking and acting with more purpose and passion. He was the person who was supposed to go nowhere but ultimately he went everywhere. You will be captured by his stories and moved by the challenges he sets forth for you. If you need a keynote speaker who delivers over 75 rapid-fire insights on sales, service, and success then Curt Skene is a perfect keynote speak for you! Click here to visit Curt's website   A Lesson on Two Wheels What If Certain Things Just Dont Add Up What Are The Basics You Need To Do Brilliantly Is It Time To Call Your Own Baby Ugly Second Best also Deserves a Chance |
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