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10 Things To Do To Start Taking Control Of Your Life
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Article Overview: Get The Sales Edge: Chris Randolph, author of "The Sales Edge" and several other books on professional selling, marketing, internet marketing, personal development and motivation shares a couple ideas on taking back control of your life.
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At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.
Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.
2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.
3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.
4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.
5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it.
6. Squash the "ANTs"
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!
7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family)
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn't touch!
8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!
9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.
10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.
When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won't solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we're turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not doing our best.
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About the Author: Chris RSS for Chris's articles - Visit Chris's website Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, Sales Trainer & Coach, Speaker WOW! Simply Amazing! Having spent 6 years as a military officer, Chris Randolph was ingrained with the basic building blocks of management & leadership. Overcoming the challenges in successfully motivating individuals from different backgrounds for a common cause, Chris realized that this was one of his natural talents. In the last 19 years, Chris has applied himself to the study and practice of professional selling, management & leadership techniques, negotiation techniques, presentation skills, fine-tuning life purpose, goal identification & achievement, script writing & marketing. He owns 3 successful businesses; is involved in the day-to-day operations and also functions as a highly productive sales rep of these companies. In spite of an unreasonable fear of cold calling, he has made over 290,000 of these calls and over 4,100 sales presentations! Chris has been able to identify key areas that make ordinary people great. Chris is highly skilled in transferring the techniques he has learned through his one-on-one coaching, group coaching, tele-seminars, interactive workshops, articles, seminars and keynote speeches. He is the author of the book "The Sales Edge: the Difference between an Average Salesperson & the Successful Sales Professional", which is sold in 14 countries around the world. This is a sales manual designed for both the novice and proficient salesperson. The "Sales Edge" describes the whole sales process in a clear concise manner with field-tested and proven strategies. Chris is also the author of "Power Negotiating Secrets", "25 Ways To Increase Sales Now", "How To Handle Every Single Objection", "Goal Setting Strategies For Kids", "Common Sales Sense (and Dollars!)", and "World's Greatest Closes". In his caring, yet firm no-nonsense approach in sharing this powerful information, Chris is able to help his clients transform themselves with a clear sense of purpose. You will find yourself exposed to powerful strategies that will transform your skill level. You will develop a game plan for your financials, profession and personal life. You will get the edge! Visit Chris' website: http://www.GetSalesEdge.com Email: Chris@GetSalesEdge.com Click here to visit Chris's website   4 Things You Can Do To Build Trust Quickly With Your Optin Email Database Stop Being A Telephone Coward There Is No Magic Answer In Selling Generate Traffic For Your Website With Free Methods How To Have Websites Built For You Inexpensively |
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