Victim Or Victor by Robin J Elliott
Hereís a quick way to tell if you see yourself as a victim or as a victor. After all, there are only two choices: Victim or Victor. Loser or Winner. If you think your circumstances dictate your income and level of success, youíre like the losers that write in to NotCanada.com Ė all whining that itís so tough to immigrate, that Canada is so hard on them, that itís all so unfair. Iím also an immigrant and I have news for you: try immigrating to Zimbabwe or South Africa and see how much welfare and free medical you get there, if you donít join the 400 people who are murdered in South Africa every day. If itís so hard, why donít you pack your stuff and go home? Iíll tell you why Ė because you know itís better in Canada! Nobody asked you to come to Canada. Go home. Itís not about where you are; itís all about WHO you are.
If you think American business is nasty because theyíre outsourcing your job to people in third world countries, perhaps you should think about why you canít get a better job after living in the richest and most successful country in the world all your life. Itís an indictment on YOU, not on profit conscious businesses that you probably own shares in! Have you noticed that people actually die trying to get into North America? Put down the cigarette and beer, look in the mirror, point at yourself and say, ďLOOOOSER!Ē Play the blame game as much as you like, but the real problem lives right under your comb-over.
If you are wont to shoot the messenger, blame the weather, wallow in self pity and talk about life being unfair, you see yourself as a victim. Now the good news is that youíre not really a victim, youíre just choosing to see yourself as one. And, while you believe youíre a victim, you will continue to lose out on all the wonderful opportunities around you! If you live in North America you are one lucky character and itís about time you realized it. Instead of being angry at immigrants because theyíre prepared to do jobs that you donít like doing, be grateful that you can get cheap labor! Iím so glad I can afford to have someone come in and clean my apartment while Rika and I settle down to make some real money.
I was fortunate to be in business with an extremely successful East Indian in South Africa. One day he said to me, ďThank God for Apartheid. They wouldnít give us East Indians jobs, so we got into our own businesses and made lots of money. If it werenít for Apartheid weíd be poor civil servant suckers!Ē Immigrants who see themselves as victims choose to drive cabs. Immigrants who see themselves as victors start businesses and get to their golf clubs in cabs driven by their countrymen. When you get downsized, you can decide to be a victor and have an Independence Day party, start your own business and get rich, or you can feel sorry for yourself, get all bitter and twisted and cry yourself to sleep like a big baby. Your choice.
Now that I have your attention, hereís the truth: You are whatever you decide you are. Instantly. If you decide that, from now on, you will see yourself as a winner, a victor, and a warrior who is unstoppable and powerful, you will start winning in a big way. When you hit a detour or a bump in the road, you will be so focused on your exciting goals that youíll hardly notice it. You will attract strong, enthusiastic, ambitious, generous people into your life. The losers will run away fast. The sun will shine brighter and all sorts of new opportunities will start to reveal themselves to you. You ARE a victor. I know that. Itís about time that you accepted it, too.
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