Is Fear Stopping You from Moving Forward?

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Many people have great ideas and plans, but they let fear stop them dead in their tracks. Is fear stopping you from moving forward? After losing over five years of my life in fear of what other people would say, and as a teenager hiding because of my acne; I realized that I had some major catching up to do. I had a choice to make. I could be like everyone else and think about it, or I could just do it.

But what happens when most people think about doing something?

Quite often they allow fear to step in and fear stops them dead in their tracks. Once fear sets in, indecision follows. With indecision comes procrastination. With procrastination comes paralysis, and nothing changes. Fear of change is one choice. Unfortunately, the choice too many people make is to allow fear of the unknown rule their lives.

The other choice is to do the opposite. Don't think about it, "Just do it" as stated by Nike advertising! If I just go and do it, what is the worst thing that can happen? Right, I fail. And if I fail, what is the outcome?

Success is based on good judgment. Good judgment comes from experience. How does one get experience?

Sometimes you have to fail often to succeed once. But that fear of failure stops you from even trying. That is one of the reasons why people procrastinate. They think about it too much.

If you just do it and fail, what is the worst thing that can happen? You will learn a lesson. If you really want to succeed, you may have to overcome fear and double your failure rate.

When I realized this fact, I developed a "do it now" attitude. I no longer thought endlessly about things because I realized that the longer I thought about doing something, the more fear would set in. The longer I hesitated before doing it; I risked not doing it at all.

I put fear and procrastination behind me and started to just do things without thinking. I realized the worst that could happen is I might learn something.

I have replaced fear with accepting failure, and failure is now part of my daily life. I don't always take the time to think things out. I am a doer, and I learn and move forward by doing.

This attitude provides me with plenty of opportunity to fail and to be criticized for doing certain things. I have experienced so much failure in my life that I am now much wiser because of it. I believe that both failure and success are part of life's balance, and there is no place for fear.

The more you try, the more you fail but the more you succeed! If you let fear into the picture, you don't try. You'll neither fail nor succeed.

When society realizes the good that comes from failure and not from giving into fear; then, people are recognized for trying and the world is a better place because of it. All success comes from failure at one time or another. No one in the world has succeeded without first trying, failing, learning, making changes, and finally moving on.

Overcome your fears and always remember that you have the right to fail; you no longer have to make excuses for your failed attempts. Instead, reflect on that failure and learn from it. That experience will provide you with better judgment for the future, and will eventually lead you to success.

Failure is not easy to accept, but there is an another way to get around it. Fear stops people and what makes matters worse with failure is people have a tendency to beat themselves up in the course of their self-talk. When you do this, you are lowering your self-confidence, your self-esteem, your self-respect and your self-worth.

You may do this to the point where you no longer take any risks or even do something out of the ordinary. Fear rules! You will become like many others and won't take any risks.

The alternative is to rebuild that courage you once had as a child. Part of life's learning is to try new things and to accept failure. However, when you fail, do not beat yourself up about it; instead look for the lesson learned. Once you discover what that lesson is, pat yourself on the back for having the courage to do something you haven't done before.

These new lessons will build your self-confidence, your self esteem, your self-respect and your self-worth. It will give you the courage to succeed in life and make you feel good about yourself.

Warning: Patting yourself too often on the back can go to your head. To avoid any ego trips, always end the pat on the back with a hand movement across the neck which indicates you don't want it to go to your head.

You need to be able to see the good behind every experience in life. Rather than living in fear of the unknown and criticizing yourself or others for failing, recognize the things which were done right, the effort to move forward, and the lessons learned.

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Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.

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Bob Urichuck, is a Canadian and the author of two best-selling books, Disciplined for Life, You Are the Author of Your Future and Up Your Bottom Line, through the Velocity Selling System. He is also a contributor to the book Sales Gurus Speak Out.
Bob has been recognized as an International Sales Expert and ranked # 7 in they World's Top 30 Sales Gurus. Bob was named Consummate Speaker of the year (2000), and awarded Platinum Speaker Status by Meeting Professionals International (MPI). Bob is a Certified Master Trainer (CMT) and Certified Sales Professional (CSP), and he holds a diploma in Adult Learning from St. Francis Xavier University. Bob is the founding president of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS), Ottawa Chapter.

Using Singapore, Dubai and Ottawa as his ongoing hubs, Bob has spoken in over 1,000 cities in over 30 countries to audiences with as many as 10,000 participants in one event. Bob has also written articles and appeared in a variety of print media internationally and is regularly interviewed on national radio and TV programs in his home country and internationally.
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