Tweet

Develope your Assertiveness Training

Written by: Frank O`Toole

Article Overview: We are often asked does assertiveness training also help me to become assertive in my private life as well as at work. The answer is yes, just imagine the following: You have just bought a new shirt, you bring it home but you decide you do not like it, but there is a problem you can not find the receipt. You bring it back to the shop in the bag and explain that you want to return it and of course here comes the question you were dreading "have you got the receipt?" you say without taking a breath, "I can not find it, I looked everywhere, its not in the car its not in the sitting room......" and so on so forth.

Develope your Assertiveness Training

We are often asked does assertiveness training also help me to become assertive in my private life as well as at work. The answer is yes, just imagine the following: You have just bought a new shirt, you bring it home but you decide you do not like it, but there is a problem you can not find the receipt. You bring it back to the shop in the bag and explain that you want to return it and of course here comes the question you were dreading "have you got the receipt?" you say without taking a breath, "I can not find it, I looked everywhere, its not in the car its not in the sitting room......" and so on so forth. You are not being assertive, you are unsure and you are lacking in self belief. You need to say "no I do not, is that going to be a problem?" this assertiveness can be improved through assertiveness training courses or confidence building courses.

We as a human beings have a constant ability to doubt ourselves. We do not provide ourselves with the reassurance that we deserve. In meetings I have no doubt that you have found yourself saying, "I feel that ...." Feeling is an action such as feeling as though you may get sick as we don't exactly feel something about the meeting in our colon or our lungs so why do we say this. Assertiveness skills training experts believe that what we should say is "I think", "I know" or "I suspect" in order for us to sell our abilities.

This can also apply for the word but, for example a father may say to their child "you're not going to like this when you hear it but..." the father has already lost that child's attention and the child is already coming up with excuses. A line that you would hear on assertiveness training courses would be "I have an idea that I believe could have some merits". Use your assertiveness skills to be sure of yourself and this in turn will boost your confidence in repeating this assertive behaviour again.

Picture this, your boss comes into your office and says "Jane/Jack this is Mr. Smith, Mr. Smith this is Jane/Jack" why is it that you are not introduce as Mrs. or Mr.? If this were to happen assertiveness skills training courses will tell you to simply reply with "hello Mr. Smith, pleasure to meet you and what is your first name?" it is vital that there is equality and equal opportunity for all in the work place regardless of sex, race, age or cultures.

Trainers on assertiveness skills training courses believe that it is our right to be treated equally within the work place however in some places to guarantee this fairness and justice people need to become more assertive in their capabilities and competencies.

Related Articles
  Assert Your Capabilities
  Dont Say Yes When You Mean No
  Assertiveness: You Can Do This!
  Assertiveness
  Facets of Assertiveness

Article Tags: assertiveness training, assertiveness training courses, training courses



Related Forum Posts
7 words or less for Structogram - Some "7 words or less" (more or less) for Structogram for your comments: Training to get your message across(6) Secrets to get your message across (6) Training so people will listen to you (7) Helping you get your message across (6) Training to learn to get your message across (8) Communications training for yourself and your team (7)
Re: Welcome New Moderators in Addition to Our Fine Team! - Thank you Ringo and Thank you to "THE TEAM" . . . . Thank you all for the warm reception!!! I am honored and I appreciate this opportunity very much. Congratulations to the other "new" Moderators.I am looking forward to "meeting" you all. I am a Brooklyn Boy and somtimes I trip over my Brooklyn upbringing. My Assertiveness and enthusiasm sometimes gets the best of me. If you ever feel I went to far (with anything) please feel free to let me have. I am a great "Beginner" and I learn fast. I'll take whatever you want to throw at me . . .GOOD OR BAD. I welcome the help and guidance. I need the help and guidance. I have over 30 years of experience starting and building large apparel manufacturing companies.My world is your world. Just ask. I want to Make a differnce . . . . . I have one objective : AS A TEAM, I WANT TO GROW OUR FORUM. With leaders like Evan and Ringo,our very special (current) moderators and the incredible members we have now, it should be a slam dunk to be able to achieve new levels of growth. Best wishes, Barry
Budget. - I believe the biggest barrier is related to budget. Training tends to be a normal practice for a big company. But I have to consider it seriously as an entrepreneur.
Marketing vs Web Optimizers vs Usability - Hi BigJim22, I must be honest - I haven't really read a lot of Seth's articles on web site strategies. What I have found though is that there always seems to be a three way conflict between marketing ideas, SEO strategies and usability issues when doing web development. The secret is to balance between the ideal situation for each of these. Since a website needs to be found, visited and acted upon we need a strong combination of marketing, SEO and usability to be successful. It's something we struggle with constantly at Last Minute Training and I'm sad to say - we still haven't found the right combination.
Re: Looking for partners to start career consulting business - Hi Mike, 1) I'm moving this to the Looking For section 2) I think a good start would be to seek out local, potential competing or related organizations/companies in your area. Universities, job centres, head hunters, HR professionals...etc. [quote:34k2gxrf]It will target professionals who want to start working at executives or higher level positions but lack necessary experience.[/quote:34k2gxrf] And I think it'll definitely help if you align your products/services with your target customer group. i.e. How do you plan to seek out this group? -------> Find the necessary talent that can accomplish this. i.e. Providing internship --------> Training in-house? Or training outsourced? Again, seek talent that aligns with your objectives. Break down what your business operations would be like, then seek the appropriate talent to cover that area. Of course, you don't want to give up too much equity by seeking out too many partners. Usually lower number of founders the more likely the start-up will survive. Good luck


Share this article with your friends. Fund someone's dream.

Leave a comment below or share on the left and you'll help support entrepreneurs in Africa through our partnership with Kiva. Over $50,000 raised and counting - Please keep sharing! Learn more.

Tweet

Newsletter

Get advice & tips from famous business
owners, new articles by entrepreneur
experts, my latest website updates, &
special sneak peaks at what's to come!

Name:
Email:

Popular Articles

10 Steps to a Great Support Team

Remind Me...

Do You Deserve To Be Happy and Successful?

Suggestions

Email us your ideas on how to make our
website more valuable! Thank you Sharon
from Toronto Salsa Lessons / Classes for
your suggestions to make the newsletter
look like the website and profile younger
entrepreneurs like Jennifer Lopez.