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Do I Always Have To Know Why?

Article Overview: Have you ever considered that sometimes asking why can be simply a knee-jerk reaction and not alwasy appropriate. Sometimes we can get caught up in our own stuff and make things unnecessarily difficult for others by demanding why and asking way too many questions. So when is a good time to ask why and when should we just let it go and just do it? Well, hopefully this article will shed some light on that for you and provide you with some tips to use in this area.

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Do I Always Have To Know Why?

A couple of weeks ago I was explaining to a client how the body has the ability to release negative energy. He had done something to his arm which was now in pain. He wasn't sure what he had done but it definitely hurt. We got into a conversation around how emotions and thoughts can attribute to pain showing up in the body. Are we continued talking, he was getting frustrated because he couldn't figure out why or how he hurt his arm. And because of that frustration he was resistant to letting go of the pain because he was hung up on knowing the why.

He was so caught up in the why that he was willing to suffer because of it. And when I asked him if he needed to know the why before letting go, he said ‘Yes," with absolutely no hesitation. That was his belief that he needed to know the why before he could let go.

This reminded me of some instances where I would ask a friend for assistance, to support me by either doing something or not doing something. She would immediately have to go into asking me why I was asking that of her. She had a belief that she needed to know the why and understand it before she would be willing to support me, even if it was something that supported us both. This showed up as resistance.

Now I am not saying that we need to be a doormat and do everything anyone asks of us just because they ask. There is a time to question and there is a time to simply honour. If it is something that we can do to be of service to another, without negatively affecting ourselves, than do we really need to know the why?

Somewhere along the line we have created beliefs for ourselves that we need to understand everything perfectly before we can comply, whether it is releasing our own pain or being of service to another. Well, what if this belief is standing in our way of our own health, our own well being physically, emotionally,spiritually and mentally? And how do we know when to ask questions and when to simply do?

Here are some things to consider when we want to ask why:

a) What are the first beliefs or thoughts that pop into your head?

b) Is asking why more of a habit or knee-jerk reaction?

c) How will holding onto this pain until I find out the why affect me physically and emotionally?

d) What if I never find out the why, then what?

e) Is knowing the why, in this case, going to make any difference?

f) By having to know and understand the why, am I causing an unnecessary delay?

I know that there definitely are times where stopping and asking why can be very important. The trick is in being able to distinguish between the two.

Sometimes I think we tend to complicate life, much more than it needs to be. We have long since lost the idea of simplicity and the easy flow that life can offer us. Sometimes just saying yes, keeping it simple and allowing life to flow is the only way to go. It's unfortunate that it is not the norm. How did we get to a place where complication and resistance has become the norm? And more importantly, how do we get back to that simplicity of allowing life to flow and become the norm.

What beliefs and/or behaviours would I have to let go of so that I can create more simplicity in my life? Here are some things to consider:

a) Controlling issues - is my need to know why about my own controlling issues;

b) Getting hurt - am I fearful that I will get hurt if I don't know all of the information;

c) Being taken advantage of: do I feel like I will be taken advantage of if I just say yes;

d) Trust - I don't know how to trust anyone or any request at face value or trust myself enough to just let go;

e) Permission - I don't know how to give myself permission to keep things simple;

f) Deserve: do I deserve a simple life, a life without pain compared to a complicated life, a life full of pain;

g) Difficulty - I believe that everything has to be difficult, therefore asking why fits in with making life difficult;

h) Fear of the unknown: I don't know what to expect if I don't ask why or let go of the resistance. That is foreign territory to me and I view that as fearful; and

i) Maybe I just don't know why I need to ask why.

The biggest thing we can do for ourselves is to become more consciously aware of the why so we can make different decisions from that place, if we choose to. Creating a more simplistic life for ourselves is definitely more rewarding and takes far less energy.

You assignment for this week, if you should choose to accept it, is to start saying, "Yes", and stop asking, "Why". See if you can try that once or twice this week, try it on for size and see how it feels. You can also do some journaling around the whys to give you some clarity on what is really going on for you so that you can choose something different. Have an awesome week!

If you have any questions or specific areas you would like more information on, please email me and I will include it in an upcoming article.

With love and gratitude,

Elizabeth

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