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6 Stages of Building Confidence: Learn step-by-step how to Deliberately Raise Your Confidence Level

Written by: Ruth Hegarty

Article Overview: Use this powerful framework to assess where you are in your confidence level and how to get where you want to be. Begin building your confidence today so you can have the life you love and deserve!

6 Stages of Building Confidence: Learn step-by-step how to Deliberately Raise Your Confidence Level

Use this powerful framework to assess where you are in your confidence level and how to get where you want to be. Begin building your confidence today so you can have the life you love and deserve!

Stage 1: Awareness, Desire, Decision, Commitment

In order to build confidence, you need to first decide that’s what you want and consider how you will benefit by greater confidence. Where in your life are you already confident and where do you need to boost your confidence? Make a list of where you want to start and pick one thing to do today.

Stage 2: Get to Know You – Shyness, Self-Esteem, Fun & Self-Love

Spend time thinking about who you are and who you want to be. What are your strengths? Vulnerabilities? Dreams? Fears? All of who you are matters. You are wonderful and to be truly confident, you need to see it and believe it for yourself. Enlist the help of loved ones to get started if this feels overwhelming. Ask the people who care about you what is special about you (and believe them!). Make a list of your attributes (make sure you have a “pro” for every “con”) and get used to believing that you are wonderful.

Stage 3: Shift to Empowering Beliefs & Rewrite Your Inner & Outer Conversations

This stage may take some time. The key is to just get started. Think about the ways you see yourself, think about yourself and talk to yourself. Anything negative needs to be reframed in a way that won’t hold you back from confidence. That doesn’t mean you need to be perfect or pretend a bad situation is good, it means you are taking responsibility for yourself and your life. Be willing to accept your vulnerabilities AND your strengths and admit to yourself that you really are quite special. Make a list of some of your negative beliefs and some ways you can reframe them to serve you better. Work your way toward that new belief.

Stage 4: Build Your Courage Muscle with Confident & Consistent Action

Here’s the really fun part. Once you create the foundation with stages 1 through 3, you build confidence the way you improve any skill, with practice. Do things that make you feel confident and do them often. Start with the easy stuff and work your way up to the big stuff. If this feels scary, start with something you are already good at and get better at it, then move on to new activities. Make a list of 5 confident actions you can take to recharge your confidence batteries and pick one to do today.

Stage 5: Celebrate Your Progress, Accomplishments & Efforts

Congratulations! You’ve done all the hard work and now you get to acknowledge how far you’ve come. Recognize every accomplishment, large AND small. This not only keeps you motivated, it builds self-esteem which is vital to real confidence. Make a list of 5 accomplishments for which you can celebrate yourself. Now, celebrate by giving yourself a favorite treat for each one.

Stage 6: Repeat, Repeat, Repeat

Like any emotion, confidence has it’s ebb and flow moments. As you build your confidence and begin to play a bigger role in your life, the challenges may get bigger as well. Maintain high levels of confidence and self-esteem the same way you maintain a healthy body, with thoughtful and consistent positive action. On an ongoing basis and whenever you need a particular boost repeat the 5 steps above. Make a list below of some ongoing confident habit you can adopt. Incorporate these into your daily routine.

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Article Tags: attributes, bad situation, belief, confidence level, consistent action, conversations, courage, desire, dreams, fears, negative beliefs, self esteem, stage 1, stage 3, taking responsibility
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