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How to prevent loved ones from bursting your bubble: 3 solid steps

Guest post by: Monique MacKinnon

Article Overview: This article explains how to stay positive in a grounded way when loved ones, friends or colleagues are being negative and intentionally or unintentionally dampening your mood. Learn three solid steps to successful communication with Bubble Bursters. It can be this easy: You will not even need to utter a single word!

How to prevent loved ones from bursting your bubble: 3 solid steps

We have all experienced negative people, or Bubble Bursters: aka Mr. or Mrs. BB. More accurately, we do not like being around people when they are being negative. When it is a spouse or someone we live with, the solution cannot just be: Eliminate him or her from your life. But you know what? How Mr. or Mrs. BB feels from moment to moment is much less “your business” than you may think it is. Why is that? Take a look at the following scenario.

If and when you feel not-so-hot about Mr. BB feeling not-so-hot, you end up giving away your power and your ability to help others, let alone yourself. To feel better, you need to feel good about Mr. BB feeling not-so-hot, in a healthy and not malicious way that is. How can you feel good about Mr. BB feeling not-so-hot? Understand that Mr. BB’s state is temporary. Accept that Mr. BB does not always feel not-so-hot. The same holds true for you: You do not always feel at the top of your game. Most importantly, recognize that you can raise your energetic vibration by embracing the following notion: Inherent in the feeling not-so-hot experience exists a rocket of desire that goes off and the potential for a 180-degree turnaround. Then, you’ll be in an empowering place of helping.

Allow yourself to become the Uplifter: Let the contrast between you and Mr. BB produce the rocket. Then focus on Mr. BB’s rocket of desire (and stick with me here), even if Mr. BB cannot, instead of on Mr. BB feeling not great. As such, you are more likely to find vibrational harmony with Mr. BB. Metaphorically speaking, choose to become the satellite dish for Mr. BB. Beam the signal to him and make it more accessible to him. Alternatively, when you say to yourself, “Oh, you’re feeling not-so-hot. Now I’m feeling not-so-hot”, this is what happens: Mr. BB influences you into a lower vibration, when what you wanted was to influence him into a higher vibration. Makes sense? And that is probably not what most Mr. BB wants anyway: to bring you down.



How To Stay Positive Around Bubble Bursters



Step 1- Focus on how you are feeling, instead of how Mr. BB is feeling.

Step 2- Ask yourself: “How am I feeling about how Mr. BB is feeling?”

Step 3- In steps 1 and 2, choose to feel great, and extend that field of energy out to Mr. or Mrs. B, with the intention of helping him process his emotions, find his own solution, or whatever is most appropriate given the scenario.

Rest assured that your create your own reality in every waking moment of your day. All you can control is what you think and feel, including about Mr. BB. If you define your reality as the following for instance, “I have a super loving supportive life-partner”, one of the following two things will happen as you stay committed to your relationship and your own growth: (1) Mr. BB will change and become positive towards and around you; or (2) Mr. BB will eventually be replaced by a new supportive life-partner. This will happen effortlessly. Also, be mindful of the following fact of life: People in a relationship rarely evolve with the same agenda or circumstances. So, allow Mr. BB to be who he is and also refrain from thinking of, or calling him a Bubble Burster.

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Article Tags: emotional awareness, emotional intelligence, interpersonal communication, loving communication, nonviolent communication, successful relationships
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