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Negative stress is not your friend. It is your enemy. To make friends with stress is to play with fire and know you will end up getting burned.

The problem is so many of us women have allowed negative stress to become familiar. We’ve forgotten how dangerous it is and have simply accepted it as part of our lives. It’s time for this toxic relationship to end!

Stress is simply veiled fear. Think about it for a moment. The two go hand in hand. Stress is fear you won’t get everything done; fear you won’t have enough; fear of failure; fear of pain; fear of what others think; or fear that you are simply not good enough.

Stress is your enemy, so do not welcome it. Fear becomes alive when you give energy to it. It will rob you of enjoying the precious moments of every day life. It can take the pleasure out of your relationships. It will tire you out and even steal your health. It is so powerful, it can even kill you.

There are steps you can take towards ending your friendship with stress:

* Step One: Recognize The Truth About Yourself *

A very important step is to recognize the truth about your value and ability. I invite you to experiment with simply “accepting” that your true self really is good enough. You are beautiful, intelligent and capable of solving every problem.

You were programmed to succeed and the ability to find the right solution is already within you. Even if you require outside help, you are able to find it. You are not superhuman, but you are a talented woman. Accepting this truth will begin to eliminate fears related to your abilities.

* Step Two: Understanding *

Yes, stress is fear! Understanding this important truth takes you a step closer towards ending this unhealthy relationship. Awareness means the deception must end. You are revealing fear as the hidden master and are choosing to take back control.

* Step Three: Reveal The Fear Behind The Stress *

When you are feeling stressed, ask yourself, “What am I really afraid of in this situation?” or “What am I believing to be true about myself?” Pinpoint what the actual fear is so you can deal with it head on.

* Step Four: Overcoming The Fear *

Now do what it takes to let go of the fear. This doesn’t have to be hard. Sometimes fear is rooted in lies and nothing abolishes lies as quickly as the truth! Hold your fear up to what is really true about you or your circumstances.

Are you really just doubting yourself or your ability? Is the outcome you fear likely to happen? Is it even worth stressing about? Choose to trust you already have what it takes to handle the situation. If you are spiritual, put your hand in God’s and realize you are not alone in this.

* Step Five: Committing To Peace *

The absence of stress is peace. It’s a mindset that says, “I’m not going to run around under the heavy load of stress anymore.” Make a conscious commitment to experience this peace in your life. You don’t need to be feeling stressed in order to be effective or successful. You know what stress feels like; now it’s time to fully experience what peace is like.

Look at the things in your life which actually create stress for you. When you minimize fear, you begin to see things from a different perspective. Suddenly, some things don’t seem so absolutely necessary anymore. Sometimes, a better way presents itself to you because you are thinking outside your fears and opening up to possibility.

Learn to recognize the sensations in your body when you are feeling stress. This is your warning signal. At first, you may find it is the “absence of stress” that feels so different. Enjoy how good it feels and purpose to do this more until stress is no longer your friend.

As you lay each fear to rest, you’ll begin to experience freedom from stress.

Copyright 2007 Tami M. Szabo

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