HELPFUL HINTS TO OVERCOME STRESS
Be aware of excessive anxiety and some times panic. Identify the troublesome thoughts that are distressing you.
Control under load and overload: Stress hormones are released under conditions of under-load, when we are twiddling our thumbs and getting bored or overload - when we have too much work to handle. Seek Balance between life and work.
Commitment: This refers to a sense of meaning and purpose to one’s existence. When you have a goal or a mission in life, your focus is on the goal or the mission which drives you. If a negative event does occur when your mind is on the goal, you do not ruminate on how the event has hurt you, your mind remains concentrated on the problem which is stopping you from achieving your goal or accomplishing your mission. You treat problems as small barriers, and do not allow your self to be overwhelmed by them. It may be worth your while to read the Chapter on achieving your Goals again if you are feeling stressed,
If you have to expose your self to stressful situations, have a supportive network which can buffer you from the negative effects of stress. A controlled exposure to stress in supportive circumstances will help promote successful coping or adaptation.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that do not require that much attention. Don’t spend your life energy on things that aren’t a big deal.
Share: Share your concerns with your family and friends. Learn to delegate or share responsibilities at home and work.
Confrontation: Avoid a confrontation when you can. Instead focus your energy on trying to understand the other person first. (You may find it useful to revisit the notes on Aggressiveness in the Chapter on Social / Cultural Development)
Challenge: Some people see life as a challenge. They accept negative things as inevitable. Problems are seen as opportunities for learning. Change is an inevitable part of life. For some, change can be both upsetting and stressful because they perceive that they are losing their sense of control. The optimists do not fight it, but look for positives in any change. They look on change as an opportunity to enjoy new experiences and develop new skills and strengths.
Projection in Time: Think back on the current event distressing you from a distant future, say six months or a year. Ask your self how you would view the same situation X number of months from now on. The distance lends a better perspective to things that otherwise appear unmanageable.
Keep in mind that human beings are among the most adaptable life forms on earth. If we believe in ourselves, we can work through any life’s difficulties- grasp stressful situations as opportunities for personal growth and increased self awareness.
Experiment: Different studies show that it is not stress per se but the coping strategies to deal with it that need close attention, People with effective strategies find it easier to brush off stress, while those who use bad coping skills suffer the health consequences. The key to managing stress is to find a method or range of methods that work for you.
Experiment with various relaxation techniques, and see which ones suite you. The following exercises and techniques will hopefully help you to move towards tranquillity. You might have your own strategies also, so please do not ignore them