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50/50 Never Works in Relationships

Guest post by: Manny Nowak

Article Overview: The old cliche in order to make it work we have to have a 50/50 deal. You have to do your part and I have to do mine. We have to split things evenly. This business partnership will only work if it is 50/50. This marriage will only work if it is 50/50. Otherwise it is never going to work. Any of that sound familiar to you? We have heard that one before. Of course we have. Yet things don't work when we give 50 and the other person gives 50. Trust me. We tried it in business. We tired it in marriage. And what we have found to many times is that things still don't work. Why?

50/50 Never Works in Relationships

The old cliche in order to make it work we have to have a 50/50 deal.

You have to do your part and I have to do mine.

We have to split things evenly.

This business partnership will only work if it is 50/50.

This marriage will only work if it is 50/50.

Otherwise it is never going to work.

Any of that sound familiar to you?

We have heard that one before.

Of course we have.

Yet things don't work when we give 50 and the other person gives 50.

Trust me.

We tried it in business.

We tired it in marriage.

And what we have found to many times is that things still don't work.

Why?

Simply because 50/50 equals failure.

But Manny, what does that mean?

It means plain and simply, in order for a relationship, business, marriage, personal to work, some times it has to be 0-100 or 100-0 depending on which side you sit on that day.

Don't just take my word for it, just ask anyone out there who has had success. I know they will agree with the point – some times you get it all, some times you get nothing.

It means 50/50 is someone's pipe dream.

Because if you are only giving 50 percent and the other person is giving only 50 percent

you are still holding back 50 percent and so is the other person.

And that is just like compromise, and we all know that compromise might look good, but how good does it work in the long run?

The problem with compromise is that neither party gets what they want.

Thus neither party is really happy.

They both had to settle for less than they really wanted.

Think about that.

To make a relationship work, sometimes you have to give 100 percent while the other person gives absolutely nothing, zero percent. But then again, sometimes it is just the opposite.

I want you to follow me along with this because this is what creates really success, long lasting success, great success.

50/50 never creates real success.

Look at our government, have they ever been able to really create success?

They compromise all the time and you see what happens when you never get what you want.

Ask anyone happily married for 20 or more years if 50/50 works.

Ask anyone in a strong and successful business relationship for more than an decade.

I will be totally surprised if they tell you, yep, that is how we always do it 50/50.

What happens is plain and simple.

What happens is that many times it ends up as 75/25 80/20, 90/10 or 100/0

One partner has to stretch further than the other.

One partner is not stretching at all sometimes while the other is wonder how much further they can stretch themselves.

But the inverse could happen tomorrow.

And it usually does.

Some days we get what we want, some days we don't.

So what does all that mean?

It means we don't go into a relationship unwilling to give 100 percent.

We have to be willing to accept that.

Remember that humbleness thing we have talked about in the past?

How humbleness is not weakness, it is actually incredible strength.

Trust me it takes a great deal of strength to give 100 percent when the other person gives zero.

This is why, in the long run compromise doesn't work.

At times we have to give it all.

And I will tell you it is worth it.

When we give it all, a situation that might not have worked, works.

It might not feel good.

But then we have to remember the times when we gave nothing and your partner gave 100 percent and how it did work out for both of us.

Remember those times.

Are you willing to put yourself on the line like that?

In a business relationship?

In a personal relationship?

You will find tremendous success if you are willing to take the risk, take the chance and humble yourself to give it all at times. Don't worry about giving zero at times, those times come naturally.

One final word of caution. This only works when all parties in the relationship have this mind set and are willing to give 100 percent, even when the other person gives zero. It you try this with someone unwilling to give 100 percent, it will not work.

So before you go into that business relationship, that partnership, that marriage. Make sure you all agree that sometimes it is going to take 100-0 and that you are all willing to do it.

Watch this article on video on youtube. Just search Manny Nowak.

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