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Self esteem Workout

Written by: Emma White

Article Overview: I am sharing some useful coaching tips and support from my monthly newsletter 'Coaching at Your Fingertips', today tips on how to boost your self-esteem. Self- esteem is about how we view our intelligence, physical ability and our emotional capabilities.

Self esteem Workout

I am sharing some useful coaching tips and support from my monthly newsletter 'Coaching at Your Fingertips', today tips on how to boost your self-esteem. Self- esteem is about how we view our intelligence, physical ability and our emotional capabilities. Really anything that has the potential to make us feel adequate or inadequate in relation to others.

1. Say positive things about yourself (this mean’s outspoken or personal thoughts) – If people speak negatively about themselves and continually bring themselves down it doesn’t take long for others to agree with them.

a. Replace I can’t with I’ll do the best I can

b. Replace I’m never any good at with I am getting better at…..

c. Replace I always mess things up with I always learn from my mistakes.

When you say positive things about yourself it increases your self respect and therefore increases your self-esteem.

Over the next couple of weeks keep a note of all the negative things you say about yourself and the situation/context which initiated the comments.

Then review the diary and ask yourself is this a fair statement about myself? Would I like other people to think of me in this way? Think about what advice you would give to your best friend who had just found out that someone else had been belittling and saying nasty things about them. Now apply these comforting words to yourself – it is important to be your own best friend not your world’s worst enemy.

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Re: Don’t worry, Enrich your life and Be happy - [quote="lisa":1rc4ik2q]Start saying positive things especially about yourself. How you communicate to yourself affects your thinking and your emotions, as well as your self-esteem.Change your mental pictures. What and how you see yourself and your surroundings make a difference to your thinking.Read more. Read about how those people who fought fear with courage and succeeded in life. Through reading, you will gain new knowledge and understanding and it will help you clear whatever is blocking your thinking and create more ideas. [/quote:1rc4ik2q] Lisa is right about this. Positive self talk can really make a difference. When you catch yourself saying something negative (whether verbally or just thinking it), turn it around and make it into the opposite. You have to remember to do this continually until it's just habit that the positive thought/saying becomes the first thing you hear instead of the second. It becomes automatic.
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