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A Life of Choice

Written by: Anne Pink

Article Overview: The empowerment of a life with choice

A Life of Choice

  Whether we have a great day or a bad day is a matter of choice. "No it isn't"  I hear people cry (including myself some days) but I have discovered that with the exception of illness and bereavement  having a great day is largely  in our own hands, it's a matter of choice.

If we wake up on a morning and it's raining and our reaction when we look out of the window is 'It's a terrible day' then don't be surprised if that's the start of a terrible day.

If you are the sort of person who says "I'm not a morning person" giving yourself permission to be grumpy with everyone around you then guess what you won't like mornings.

If you delight in saying to people "I'm just in one of those moods today' or " as a way of giving yourself permission to have a miserable face all day which you then  inflict upon everyone else then I guess you've had a few miserable days!

How we feel is entirely a matter of choice, second by second, minute by minute hour by hour day by day. We may not always be able to choose what happens to us in life but we can always choose how we feel about it and how we react to it!

If you listen carefully you will hear people say on a daily basis;

"My husband/wife/boss/child/parent/friend/neighbour/sister/brother/inlaws/....and Uncle |Tom cobbley and all 'has upset me', 'put me in a bad mood' 'annoyed me'.............get the picture!

Well no one can do anything to  you that you don't give them permission to do, they may indeed say hurtful things, be inconsiderate, be forgetful, disappoint you and number of things that happen in relationships but what they can't do is spoil your whole day as a result only you can make that happen!

Sulking and anger, and angst however 'justified' you feel it is' may' of course cause grief to the person you feel has 'upset you' but the only certainty is you will definitely have chosen to spoil your own day. Next time you feel that happening ask yourself "why am I choosing to let 'what happened' get in the way of me having a great day?"

Feeling good about ourselves and the life we lead is the very core of our being and only you are responsible for how you are feeling. Once you have acknowledged that then you can start to make amazing changes to your life. You stop looking for other people to put life right for you and start to make it right for yourself.

That doesn't mean that having other people in your life isnt wonderful and indeed they can add an extra layer of warmth to a cold day, the joy of love and friendship are two of the greatest gifts in life but people can only 'add' to a sense of well being they can't create it for you.

Of course it's up to you whether you choose to agree with me, giving up the luxury of blaming others and accepting 100% responsibility for our own life isn't initially an easy choice to make (and even those of us who have chosen it still occassionally and spectacularly fall off the wagon) but once you realise the benefits you wouldn't choose to have it any other way. Warmest wishes and Keep flying high

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