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Coaching Tip: Stop “Trying” and Start “Doing”

Written by: Lorraine Cohen

Article Overview: “Try” invites a wishy-washy attitude that gives people an excuse to bail out of committing to doing (or having) something desirable or undesirable. You cannot try to do anything. You either do or you don’t. Ready to say YES to your dreams and desires?

Coaching Tip: Stop “Trying” and Start “Doing”

If I had a $1.00 each time I heard someone say, “I’ll try to”…be there ….. complete that, make time to ….attend….call…

Funny thing about how our minds interpret the word “try”. Our subconscious does not understand or relate to that word all. In truth, what it hears and assumes is, “it is unimportant and does not have to be done”.

Consider all the times you have responded with “I’ll try” to a request, commitment, or task to a friend, colleague, client, customer, YOURSELF…. What happened? How often did you show up to the “maybe yes, maybe no” position you created? What’s missing is the decision to fully YES and then to follow through with action.

“Try” invites a wishy-washy attitude that gives people an excuse to bail out of committing to doing (or having) something desirable or undesirable. You cannot try to do anything. You either do or you don’t.

Pay attention to how many times you consciously use the word “try” in your conversations with others. How often does your internal self-talk echo your non-committal position?

Variations include maybe, I’ll see if I, perhaps…

If you’re wondering why things might not be going the way you want, ask yourself, “Have I really said yes to what I say I want? Have I fully made the decision to fulfill my dreams and desires?” Or are you going through some of the motions and trying to more than doing?

Practice shifting into a “will do” attitude. Be open, willing and curious to have a new experience with something that might even be……. delightful and fun! In other words, stop saying “try” and start saying YES!

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