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How Can I Help You? Building Powerful Business Relationships That Sky Rocket Your Success

Written by: Lorraine Cohen

Article Overview: Adopting the intention to help others succeed is a sure-fire way to create your own success. Learn why.

How Can I Help You? Building Powerful Business Relationships That Sky Rocket Your Success

I was reading another chapter in one of my favorite books, The Art Of Possibility. This is one of the best books I’ve ever read on transforming your personal and professional life. On page 55, the authors introduce the practice of, “being in contribution.”

One of my clients says contribution is essential to being who she is. She says, “Helping others is part of my life purpose. I need to help at least one person in some way, every day.” For many, being in contribution to others is a core value. Many have defined the value of contribution as meaning, “being in service to others” because they want to make a difference in the world.

The intention of being in contribution can be expressed by saying, “How can I help you? or “Is there anything I can do for you?” The practice of being in contribution means generously offering your time, energy, knowledge, contacts…. to help someone simply for the joy of it, without any agenda or attachment to an outcome. Have you ever felt that joy? It’s a wonderful feeling, isn’t it?

Let me expand on this for a minute.

Have you ever done or said something that generated a spark of energy, ignited a passion or provided a needed kick in the pants for someone? Perhaps you helped to lift their spirit, opened their mind to new ways of thinking, offered hope, inspired them to action or challenged them to grow? You might have helped someone in just a few minutes of conversation.

Are you familiar with the ideas of paying it forward (someone helps you and you help the next person in need) and random acts of kindness such as opening a door for someone or yielding the right of way at on a busy street. There are so many ways we contribute to another’s ease or happiness in a matter of minutes. We don’t always know the big or small ways we touch the lives of others.

In Keith Ferrazzi’s best-selling book, Never Eat Alone, he says, “I’ll sum up the key to success in one word: generosity.”

One of my dearest friends is a great inspiration. Each week she takes time out of her busy schedule to help someone. It might be just to listen, give some advice, be a mentor/guide, offer a mini training – it varies according to the need. Helping others is one of her themes for the year. Generously offering her time, expertise, and wisdom is the way she shares her heart with others and allows her to fulfill one of her life purposes.

In the last two weeks, I needed her professional expertise to prepare for two important speaking presentations. She has repeatedly offered to help me hone my speaking skills and I finally decided to accept. Being the person people often come to for help, I don’t always ask for help when I need it. She really came through for me. As a result of her guidance and coaching, both presentations went terrific.

To fully give you must also be able to receive the love and support from others. Be sure to allow others the opportunity to be in contribution to YOU!

By showing up and being fully present with people – to really hear them and respond from your heart is one of the most powerfull ways to build relationships and serve people. Being in service to others attracts abundance and flow into your life.
Being in contribution to others is a deliberate decision.

Copyright © 2006, Lorraine Cohen. All Rights Reserved

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