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What’s Guiding Your Decisions - Your Head or Your Heart?

Written by: Lorraine Cohen

Article Overview: Learn ways to discern when you are making decisions with your head or your heart which affects your results!

What’s Guiding Your Decisions - Your Head or Your Heart?

Does it matter?

I’d say yes because when we make decisions without bringing our heart into the equation, the outcomes can be very different and less fulfilling.

For example, if you are feeling a lot of fear about the recession, you might be thinking, “Ok, what do I need to do for …myself, my family, my business, my future, my security, my sanity….. so I can be/feel peacefull, in control, responsible, safe…..?”

While that’s a logical question to consider, the energy and motivation behind your thinking and decision-making process is fear. Fear-based decisions rarely bring lasting peaceful and fulfilling results; they usually perpetuate more fear and can generate guilt, doubt, and regrets.

The key is listening to your inner wisdom; the voice that whispers to you, trying to get your attention over the noise in your head. And, you must be present to hear the calling of your spirit in those moments of silence in between your thoughts.

Do you listen?

When I was in LA a few weeks ago I realized I was out of alignment with many of the choices I had made with my business. A while back I made a conscious decision to bring spiritual principles into my business practices. What that meant was tuning into my soul’s intention and guidance for direction when making business and life decisions. I wanted to be sure I was saying YES to the things that aligned with my spirit rather than what I thought I should be doing or what I was reacting to out of fear.

Discerning whether it is your head or your heart (soul, spirit, The Divine) guiding you might seem tricky.

Here are some ways I can tell the difference

1. Do I feel excited and juiced? Am I rationalizing, trying to talk myself into something, reacting from fear or shoulds? Am I being influenced by the enthusiasm of someone else and getting caught up in their excitement and urgency, especially when there is money involved? Now, I stop, take a few breaths, get quiet, tune into my body and “feel” into the idea. When I listen, I always know whether something is right for me.

2. It “feels right” and comes from an inner knowing that is very peaceful within me. I just know, period. No additional thought is needed. A decision that feels scary or uncomfortable is still the right choice when it comes from ”my gut” intuition and instinct. The more I have tested and followed my intuition and had good results, the more I have come to trust it - like a muscle you develop.

How often have you jumped on board with an idea, program, or company in the hopes of making BIG BUCKS quickly? How many times have you had a feeling about something, a gut instinct that you ignored because you didn’t trust yourself, and went to others for advice only to realize your original feeling was the right one for you? Have you ever regretted a decision because you didn’t pay attention to your heart?

3. The message repeats, catching my attention two to three times. You know those times when you have a thought and it pops up again in your mind or from a person, TV, radio, newspaper…..? By the second (and definitely the third time) By the second (and definitely the third time) I receive the same message, I’m taking action. I take that as a signal from my spirit that I am meant to do or be something NOW. When I sense that inner prodding to, “Do It and do it NOW,” I do!

4. I feel happy and lighter. When I was in LA a few weeks ago I realized I was out of alignment with many of the choices I had made with my business. Over the holidays I planned to take the last week in December off. Did I? NO. I began the New Year feeling tired, stressed, and over committed. While some of the projects I was working on were interesting, I felt I was working too hard and waaaay out of balance. In LA, I clearly saw and felt what I needed to let go of regardless of any potential financial rewards. Within one week of coming home, I cleared several things off my plate to create space for what’s next to flow into my life. I could feel instant relief and ease. When I made the decision to say yes to writing my book, I felt an inner joy inside as if my spirit was jumping up and down saying, “FINALLY, thank you!”

5. God/The Divine/The Universe is the SOURCE of my supply. All the abundance and good that flows into my life is not dependent on what I DO; it is more about who I am and how vibrationally aligned I am with my dreams, desires, and destiny. Being in faith, trusting your intuition and inner guidance with the willingness to take action even if it makes no logical sense and yet, it feels so RIGHT….. is the path to becoming the best and highest version of who you are. You must be “out of your mind to be into your heart”. Who you are Be-ing (first) and what you are Do-ing (second) affects what you are manifesting.

Our soul/spirit speaks to us through our emotions and inspired thoughts. Our mind is meant to be a tool used by our spirit in a physical body.

So, what is guiding your choices and actions?

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