Tweet

Making it Real

Guest post by: Jeannie Campanelli, Ed.D., CPCC

Article Overview: An old friend of mine shared, "I marvel at what my friends teach me". She wasn't talking about learning from her many friends how to improve her gardening skills or understanding more deeply the complexities of politics. She was addressing the emotional charges, the judgmental thoughts, the highs and lows of relating to others and what she learns about herself through such exchanges. She holds herself 100% accountable for her growth in relating to others from a place of real curiosity and a commitment to love.

Making it Real

An old friend of mine shared, "I marvel at what my friends teach me". She wasn't talking about learning from her many friends how to improve her gardening skills or understanding more deeply the complexities of politics. She was addressing the emotional charges, the judgmental thoughts, the highs and lows of relating to others and what she learns about herself through such exchanges. She holds herself 100% accountable for her growth in relating to others from a place of real curiosity and a commitment to love. Sounds like a wonderful concept, appreciating what she can learn from others, doesn't it? And how do we actually live that way? How do we hold ourselves responsible so solidly that we stay open-hearted, real, and curious in the midst of all the messiness that being in close relationships can bring? How do we appreciate the opportunities that our relationships give us to learn about deep love?

In my view, the foundational step on this journey to relate lovingly to others is to cultivate our awakening to stillness/spaciousness/peace/God/oneness - that which is our true nature. We can then look into the eyes of the other and see the same spaciousness looking back at us. And this ability to live and experience others from spaciousness changes everything.

It is from spaciousness that we can be aware of the fleeting thoughts and feelings that come and go in any given day. When we notice judgmental thoughts, charged points of view, feelings, and sensations in the body, the art is to welcome in whatever we discover instead of pushing what we don't want to experience away or projecting it ‘out there' onto someone else. In other words, the practice is to stop resisting reality.

In this practice of openness, we accept that thoughts - whether they are negative or positive - are a natural part of being human. They come and go as feelings do. It is the energy we give our thoughts that makes the difference. We also give ourselves permission to completely feel what is to be felt. We understand that by experiencing the complete range of feelings available to humanity without resistance, our sense of aliveness increases.

Because we don't make ourselves wrong for having judgments, emotional charges, and highs and lows in our relationships, we are able to simply be with the learning at hand. In spaciousness, we can actually feel in awe of what we are learning from a loving and compassionate place. In this way, we can be true students of life - alive and appreciative of the many opportunities that come our way to expand.

With this practice, we hone in on our ability to take our humanness lightly, yet, responsibly ("Oops, I could have done that differently - how great to see that so clearly!"). We appreciate all that life teaches us - through circumstances, through relationships, and through connecting ever deeper with ourselves.

Related Articles
  Beware of Snark-Infested Waters
  RecessionProof Your Real Estate Career
  Real Estate Commercial Loans?
  Lesson #2: Love Your Work
  Cash Flow for Real Estate Investors
  The 9 Great Questions Real Leaders Often Ask
  TIPS FOR MAKING MONEY WITH REAL ESTATE YOU DON'T OWN
  The Truth Behind Internet Home Based Business Opportunity
  Real Work at Home Jobs - Are There Any Good Ones Left?
  Best Home-base Business For Mothers I
  A lesson learned at the mall
  What kinds of information and technology is used in Supply Chain communication?
  REAL WEALTH
  Beware of “Analysis Paralysis!”
  The Importance of Electronic Signature Technology For the Real Estate Industry
  Is what you are doing Important?
  Are There Legal Real Work From Home Jobs
  Purchasing Real Estate using the SBA 504 Loan
  Learning To Create Your Own Legitimate Home Based Business
  Extraordinary Self Leadership Means Exceptional Time Management

Article Tags: close relationships, complexities, curiosity, fleeting thoughts, highs and lows, journey, messiness, midst, old friend, oneness, openness, peace god, relating to others, sensations, stillness, thoughts and feelings, true nature



Related Forum Posts
Making Money in 2011 - Hello forum members! As we draw closer to the new year I thought it would be appropriate to change the title of our forum category "Making Money in 2010" to "Making Money in 2011" - I'm looking forward to some interesting discussions and wish everyone a prosperous New Year!
Re: No money Down real estate Webinar - I wish I could attend. I want to learn more about Real Estate investing although I have to have other priorities at the moment. Can you keep me updated about the next one though?
Re: Hi - Thanks guys! I have been helping Real Estate and Mortgage professionals generate leads from the Internet for 5 years now!. I'd be glad to exchange some ideas. Have a great day=)
Re: Hi All, - Welcome Aaron!! what type of Real Estate investing do you specialize in? in Toronto I am involved in purchasing properties at wholesale prices prior to the owners going into Foreclosure.
Re: Marketing potential of virtual worlds - Making such amounts, are they for real? I mean, have heard about Second Life, but can one make real money there?


Share this article with your friends. Fund someone's dream.

Leave a comment below or share on the left and you'll help support entrepreneurs in Africa through our partnership with Kiva. Over $50,000 raised and counting - Please keep sharing! Learn more.

Newsletter

Get advice & tips from famous business
owners, new articles by entrepreneur
experts, my latest website updates, &
special sneak peaks at what's to come!

Name:
Email:

Popular Articles

RULE YOUR BUSINESS LIKE A SHINE STAR

How To Be Happy at Work? Acknowledge Yourself

Leadership-A Daily Gift

Suggestions

Email us your ideas on how to make our
website more valuable! Thank you Sharon
from Toronto Salsa Lessons / Classes for
your suggestions to make the newsletter
look like the website and profile younger
entrepreneurs like Jennifer Lopez.